So hard to leave. Why do I stay? Silly me.
2006-12-11 23:26:07 · 25 answers · asked by Lochie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leaving your husband is not as simple as it sounds.
Do you have somewhere to stay, such as relatives or friends who could put you up for several weeks, if not months?
Or do you have enough money to get a place of your own immediately?
Do you have children to consider?
Are they still too young to leave the nest?
Financial issues are very important in this matter, if not crucial.
Bottom line is, without money, you`re pretty much stuck unless someone you know and trust is willing to open their home for you (and your children too?).
You might have to go through a divorce, which could take a year or more, before you get to see any money coming your way.
So what are you going to do in the meantime?
Do you work at all?
Like I said, easier said than done.
Good luck to you honey!
P.S. Are you planning to spend the Holidays at home with your cheating husband this year?
2006-12-11 23:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you have low self-esteem. Cheating is a deal breaker. You are deserving of love, respect, and you deserve to be safe from harm and secure in your marriage. Unfortunately my dear, yor husband has demonstrated that he can't or is unwilling to provide you with this.
He doesn't truly love you because if he did he wouldn't cheat. He doesn't respect you because if he did he would have talked to you about his being unhappy and his temptation to cheat. Honey, he doesn't even care about you enough to take concern over your physical health and safety. If he did he wouldn't risk the possibility of you contracting an STD or AIDS by cheating and coming home to sleep with you.
You need to hand him the divorce papers and know that his infidelity has no reflection on you. You just married a dog. So put the dirty dog where he belongs....outside! He will not change so wake up and realize that you are beautiful and deserve better.
2006-12-12 07:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by On the upside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to leave when you really love someone despite their indescretions, but honey you deserve better. Will you still stay when he brings home an STD of some sort? I certainly hope you have the willpower to get out before its too late. I left my cheatin husband 5 years ago and I still love him, but know I am better off without him. I know I deserve better. He cheats on his current girlfriend, and he showed up to pick my kids up one day with herpes all over his face. One week later I saw his girlfriend and she had the same familiar scabs on her face. She obviously doesnt "Get it" yet. So glad I got out when I did. It could have been me, but I decided to make better choice for myself. Pick up the pieces and move forward. Someone out there will treat you much better then that. Good luck to you.
2006-12-12 08:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Hubby has no respect for you, By the sounds of it you have no respect for yourself..you deserve better..Don't keep letting him do that to you, Do something about it..Leave or kick him out..Let him know this is serious and your tired of being treated like a piece of crap..Stand up for yourself!!!
2006-12-12 07:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are silly to stay.
You are telling him it's ok to continue to disrespect you and you will put up with it, no matter what.
You are giving him his cake and letting him eat it to.
Please some respect for yourself, leave this loser. Don't you think you are worthy of love? I do and I don't even know you.
I know you want to be loved, so get out there and get your life back and find true love, this man isn't giving it to you and won't as long as you show him you will still be by him no matter how he treats you.
2006-12-12 07:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating can cut both way, if the hubby can cheat, so can the wife. Be happy and enjoy life !
2006-12-12 08:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by burr burr 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he cheats u should leave,he's gonna do it again FIND SOMEONE NEW!!HELLO there is plenty of men in this world to go around so put yr heals on and go out.Good luck
2006-12-12 07:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by dezzza37 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not hard to leave.if he cheats leave him. You dont need someone thats going to hurt you over and over. You need someone that will love and respect you.
2006-12-12 10:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by sexy gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself cause we all make mistakes in love & when you get tired of his cheating ...really tired ...you'll get out of it. You probably think he will change & that is what keeps you hanging on.Wish you much luck & many prayers.
2006-12-12 07:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by "karma" 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee! How can you trust where he may have been! Dump him and get a blood test fast! Many wives have been shocked to find that they have contracted something bad from a cheating husband!
2006-12-12 07:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋