I was married in July to my boyfriend of 5 years. I got pregnant on the honeymoon. (We're both 25 btw). A month later he left me for his ex from high school, who he hadn't seen in 8 years; said he was always in love with her and didn't know he would find her again; sorry.
Before he left for boot camp (marine corps) last month, he told me that she is pregnant too. She is 3 months behind me, and is due two days after our wedding day.
The divorce was final last week. He is paying child support, medical, half of daycare, and had to get a life insurance policy on himself.
He and I are both drug free. She abuses meth, although I am assuming she quit right now for the pregnancy (who knows.) I also really don't like her, as she took my husband from me. I am no longer sad that we are not together, but I don't like her anyways.
My question is, how do I handle this? Our kids will be half-siblings; I don't trust her around any kid, what do I do to let the kids see each other?I want to be fair
2006-12-11 23:15:34 · 10 answers · asked by all_the_answers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgot to mention: I did hire a lawyer. I have sole custody, and visitation is mandated by me. I decide when and where he sees the kid. I am going to let him see his kid, and I want my kid to be able to see her kid, just not her. He was already in the dep when we married, too.
2006-12-11 23:34:04 · update #1
OMG :( you poor thing :( that f***in' @ssh*le:(. If I were you, I wouldn't let my kidz even SIT in the SAME ROOM with her bastard. The mom iz obviously a whore & a crackhead & can never be trusted or even responsible enough for her OWN kid. Don't leave ur child with her no matter what, Instead, to build a relationship between ur child & herz, although I strongly DO NOT recomend it, let the child come over to YOUR house, while ur there & already around ur baby. She obviously doezn't like you, If not, Hate you, so she'd never love or take care of your child& someone bad might happen to your baby while he/she iz at her house. And, if this solution didn't work, hire a nanny to watch while your kid iz at her house, & make her a really hott, younge one ;), Ur ex huzband soundz like an airhead who'd do such a thing ;) so, yea, get a really sexy nanny & play fire with fire " on the down low" lol
Good luck & I wish you the best, It showz ur a really sweet person who doeznt deserve this piece of crap. ur better off with someone sweet like you. not alot of motherz would care about thier children enough to want them to be close with all thier relitivez.
2006-12-11 23:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has visitation rights to your child then you will not be able to dictate who else sees or spends time with your child when he/she is with him....contact your lawyer and see what they have to say....it could be a very scary and dangerous situation but unless or until something happens you may not be able to do anything about it...good luck
2006-12-11 23:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be long before he will split with her too. After a few more relationships he can get a bus to go around and collect his kids on visitation day.
2006-12-11 23:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You and your kid have no need to be around her. The father can visit his kid without her. This looks like an episode of "REBA"
2006-12-11 23:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by cb56br 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm nevertheless fuming over OJ Simpson getting away with homicide, so i might opt for to have him on the coach with Jerry telling him that he had a secret admirer who had to fulfill him...blindfold him and then enable contributors of the Brown and Goldman relatives in simple terms beat the s h i t out of him........
2016-10-05 05:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is steve? i think before you make plans for putting the kids together, you should wait until her child is born. he/she may be stillborn, handicapped or anything else (because of her drug use). ask your question again in a year or two.
2006-12-11 23:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by sinned 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Arrange for your husband to see his kids away from her, you can't risk letting your kids anywhere near a junkie like that.
2006-12-11 23:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he went to the army for a reason he is trying to sort his life out it sounds like he needs it too, o no she what??????? yes he did go to the army for a reason he stuffed himself right up for the kids..... to see each other get family services to supervise maybe ... good luck
2006-12-11 23:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by luckydo6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move?
buy a drug sniffing dog?
wear a DEA vest?
2006-12-11 23:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Banting B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget she exists and just worry about you and your child ! It is simple she doesn't exist in your world !
2006-12-12 00:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋