Is your daughter-in-law's main goal in her marriage to get rid of her husband's family? If so, hat's off to those strong woman who have to put up with these young ladies of today who do not reflect stability of the family as a whole.
After all, how does one expect to role model the importance of family as a whole if a young lady is unable to respect their husband's relationships with his family - right off the bat not knowing her role and "wearing the pants in the marriage". Pardon me, but isn't that manipulating leave and cleave into what amounts to secular belief. Does not secularism seek the destruction of the traditional family in the first place? IMO Yes.
2006-12-11 23:05:18 · 5 answers · asked by GoodQuestion 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
....so daughters that don't realize the " couple" who have now become one has married into two extended birth families? Both of which love their sons and daughters and choose not to be used in a marital brawl. At least those of us who continue to want the best for our son and daughter as a whole.
2006-12-14 00:34:51 · update #1
When my daughter was about to be married I told her that when you marry the man you marry into a family. That is so true and your wife should be supportive of your family. However if they are being difficult with her, your place would be to stand up for her and not to take sides with them. When you married, you left your father and mother to be with your bride and visa versa. One has to set ones priorities straight and realize that this is the time where you are accountable to her and visa versa. You have made a commitment to her now be the part and let go the apron strings. I am not saying you must not see your family, but you have taken on your own new family. Cherish her and show her the respect that you would like to recieve from her. Ask your family to befirend her and to accept her as one of their own too after all she has married into your family hasnt she. SHe has to be more important to you than your family. If not you will lose her! MAybe you both need counselling of sorts and never shun that it really helps.
Good luck and my you two flourish as a couple!
MErry CHristmas
2006-12-11 23:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that the husband has some say in this, too. he's not helpless, you know.
every wife's "place" is different, depending upon what she and her husband value together. When I get married, my husband and I will have already settled this matter together, NOT his family.
the husband has to spend 24/7 with his wife, not his mother. so it makes sense that he'd like to keep the peace with her. conversely, the wife is marrying HIM, not his mother, so if her values don't match up with her m.i.l.'s values, she should do what she knows is right and discuss things with her husband, not his mother. the husband can go and talk to his mother any time he wants to.
2006-12-12 07:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of the time is the other way around
2006-12-12 07:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lmao....I can see why your daughter-in-law must go to great lengths to keep you at arms length....;)
2006-12-12 10:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What?????
2006-12-12 07:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by cb56br 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋