I really lke girls, or at least I think I do. I don't see girls that often because I go to an all guys school, and I have bad luck with girls relationship wise. I don't really feel like I like guys inthat sense, but Idon't know if I do or not. Am I gay, or bisexual? I really don't want to be!! I want to love beautiful girls, not guys. Is it a phase that will end soon? Do I have to hang around girls more often? PLEASE SAY I'M NOT GAY!!
They say it might be predetermined, and I'm afriad I have some feminine traits as I watch mself more. The way I run, I'm really weak, I put a cover stick on to hide zits. I really REALLY don't want o be... not straight. I feel somewhat attracted to girls, but how can I tell if I still am. PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2006-12-11 23:03:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Get the both of best worlds, just be like i am a part time shirt lifter, only help out when they are busy
2006-12-11 23:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by burtbb0912 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what you are. There is no choice so it is not a question of deciding whether or not to be gay or straight. Don't worry about it. Just live your life and see what happens. You say you are at school so there is no hurry to make such a momentous discovery about your sexuality. As time goes by you will know whether you are gay, bi or straight. Just accept the result and rejoice when the time comes. For some it can take several years so don't worry if it is not that clear at the moment. I knew I was gay when I was about 14 or 15 but some of my friends did not know until they were much older.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 23:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, your feelings are perfectly normal. It is very common for young men to have conflicting sexual emotions, particularly during puberty and even more so if they spend a lot of time in an all male environment. Nothing you have said suggests to me you're not straight. Showing traits normally associated with the opposite gender isn't an indication of sexual preference. I can't cook but love wood work, I really don't like wearing skirts, I've never worn make up in my entire life and I absolutely detest shopping. These things do not make me a lesbian or even bisexual.
Relax, you are the person you are, a perfectly normal healthy young man by the sound of things.
2006-12-11 23:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And whats wrong being gay? Anyway calm down! You sound like a drama queen! Just kidding but you are over reacting. Have you been drinking too much coffee lately? Someone is just fooling around with your head. YOU ARE NOT GAY! but you have a zit. I suggest you get some facial wash or something to help control your zits. Wash your face with an acne soap or facial wash especially before you sleep. This is not gay but more of personal hygiene like brushing your teeth. Would girls go out with guys with big zits? Eat well and drink lots of liquid. Try to exercise and work out. This can improve your self image and confidence.
If you have more paranoid questions, just click on my avatar and send me a message.
2006-12-12 01:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by PAXson 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well after all of that being said, when you beat off or masturbate, do you think of guys, girls, both? You know in your mind what you like and what turns you on. It takes more than a self conscious zit hider, cover stick, and the way you run to make that determination. Good luck :)
2006-12-12 00:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by punxsyparty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the immortal words of Frank Zappa, "You are what you are and you is what you is." Being out of a target rich environment doesn't necessarily make you gay -- but it's real easy to fall into the trap of convenience -- and I know many effeminate men out there who are 'the only O' -- hetero.
Your mindset is the prime mover in your sexuality. If you 'feel straight' then you most likely are. When you 'feel gay' you'll act on those feelings and then you'll know for sure.
Til then, I wouldn't worry about it one way or another. Being in school provides for many other more significant things to be concerned with ... like studying.
2006-12-11 23:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know, half these *** holes are telling youto run the other way and ignore true insecurities and questions that you have. working out and looking at porno aint gonna help ease your anxiety. the more you focus on it, the more it's gonna bother you. you'are gonna looka t everything you do a freak out. Just relax. Do your work, take it easy. have fun. You will figure out whatever it is that you want and are with time. I know many muscle meat head that are gay, and plenty of unathletic, weaklins that are completely hetero. The only ones that suffer, are the ones that avoid their true sentiments and run to overcompensate for by working out and sleeping with any girl who will give them the time of day, If you knew any of those people that responded to you, i would bet money that most of them have questioned thir own sexuality. they're just too pussy to admit it!
relax and enjoy your life..
2006-12-12 01:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by cacaca13 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi andrew
i am also a guy who loves girls, but i have a very strong femine side. i'm really sensitive and emotional, and i love grooming myself and doing girly things like shave my underarms and legs, and taking bubble baths..
i don't really understand it, but i just go with the flow.
i don't consider myself interested in romance with a man, but i do find the male body attractive.. and i often think it would be fun to explore and do some "experimenting" in bed with a guy..
best thing you can do is not focus or worry.. if you happen to be bi, then it's no big deal. you can still be bi, yet have a wonderful relationship with a woman and a woman only.
you can keep it to yourself too. it's not like you have to tell everyone you know that you are bi, if in fact, you are.
anyway, gimme an e-mail if you'd like to chat further..
2006-12-12 11:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa dude... get a grip
Your still a kid. worry about school and yourself. If you want to attract anyone for that matter be the flame not the moth.
Workout if you need to. do that workout alot to build up youself and your confidence.
You have a computer use it! Check out the girls online then get back with us.
2006-12-11 23:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by FIRE § 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound entirely too young to put a label on yourself.those are NOT feminine traits.I'm a female who is a strong runner,physically strong and I would have to have a mountain on my face to even think about putting cover stick on it,does that make me masculine?you sound more insecure then gay to me.
2006-12-11 23:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by rcdc_wva. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋