A bankrupt 46yr businessman with debts,growing kids,28yr lovely girlfriend,married 20yrs,nice wife.Too Late?

Question

I am lost,have lost focus and desire to reach somewhere.Cause i dont know ...where do i want to go.
Starting today,i will write whatever happens in my life,openly,everything,everyda... post on my 360 blog.
I think writing down truthfully will help me in understanding:
What do i stand for,
What do i want to do or avoid.
Where am i going
Can i make it.

Do you think its a good idea?

Answer 1

You ALREADY asked this dlckhead.

Answer 2

Happiness cannot be found through looking. Happiness is hormones and a selective memory. You have commitments and responsibilities, that you willingly signed on for. And you have some you didn't. Sort out which is which, and do some spring cleaning. Then make a plan, to get you where you need to be - forget want to be. I make no references to your personal life - everything I write applies to everything. Find some task to make your final 1/3 (or maybe 1/2) of life of some worth. As for writing, you are old enough and experienced enough not to waste your time in self-involvement. If you really want to write, write something that will be of value to others. And if your very lucky, instead of wondering if you are happy, you will die old and realise that you were. If you really are depressed, this may be nearly impossible to achieve. So first - do a sport. The more active and outdoors the better. Then start.

Answer 3

It`s not just about You is it ?? Stop feeling sorry for Yourself ,do something positive and work on what You still have got,and at this rate wont have.What the f*ck are You doing with the girlfriend,who gives a toss how old she is/what she looks like!! Find some security instead of pampering Your ego.Dump the bird and appreciate Your wife who`s no doubt been supportive throughout the long 20 yr marriage! Has she opted for the toyboy now the s*it`s hit the fan(probably not!!!).You both need support as a family,not You looking for nookie.Be a man and take control again.You`ll lose the kids respect too.Pull Yourself up,not pull Your trousers down.Is the g/f still interested after Your demise ?

Answer 4

I don't know the answer to that. It might do you some good to write down your thoughts. It's never too late. However, I would give up the girlfriend or the wife. Because looking at your financial situation I don't think you can afford both and you might not can afford to give up the wife with the growing kids. You can start over but you will have to let go of some liabilities like the girlfriend.

Answer 5

OK let me get this straight you are46 have a 28 yr old girlfriend and a wife of 20 years. You are going bankrupt with your business. Maybe you should start by getting rid of the girlfriend and begging mercy from you wife of 20 years. Writing it down on a blog is not something that will help you at this point. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get you head our of your butt and start doing what is right. You are a grown man and are acting like a kid. Maybe your wife should get you a babysitter oh no never mind you would probably sleep with her. Get real and get a life and hope your wife does not leave your butt.

Answer 6

if you've been married 20 yrs----with a nice wife, what on earth are you doing with a 28yr old lovely girlfriend?

Your focus and your down fall are your own doing! You can blog on 360 to the cows come home but if you don't change what your priorities are in life you'll never succeed in anything.

Even financial decisions in your business have caused you to be in a bankruptcy mode. You're spending in your personal life as fast as you are in the business world. You are your own worst enemy at this point in your life.

Too late? well....if your wife finds out about your 28 yr old lovely thing it will be your end for sure.

I would say---stop your mid-life crisis mode and concentrate on what is important. Your family, kids, and your wife. Stop the affair and skirt chasing!!

Answer 7

Let me get this straight...you have a girlfriend who is 28 and a wife. Therein lies your problem. You are lying and cheating...this can't make you feel good. You are four years shy of 50 and still messing around like a kid...First thing to do is GROW UP.

I guess the 28yr old makes you feel young and validated. Your wife probably reflects your own age. Stop spending money on your girllfriend and look after your nice wife and growing kids. The blogg might help you hightlight your stupidity.

Answer 8

I think it is a good idea, I am also lost and without focus. I think life is hard and like you i have debts and kids that are growing and sometimes i just want to run away, which I have done, but I have now realised that I have to face life and get my life back on track with my kids.

Writing it down does help as i keep a diary myself now and it helps me when i am feeling down.

Good luck xx

Answer 9

Sometimes writing things out can help focus your direction more. You may have a brain storm in the middle of writing and develop a great new business idea or career path.

Answer 10

its a wonderful idea, but be prepared for the worst.
I left my first wife for my second, who was 16 years less than me, she got pregnant and died in a most terrible accident.
My third wife is my age and is understanding. but the thing is, most people, think only of what you can offer and not "WHO YOU ARE" and what you represent.
because I own 3 villas in the south of France, I got the most wonderful propositions from younger women, who Im sure were not up to the mark.
Sandrine, my second wife, was, and always will be, the love of my life, but, she was an exception!

Answer 11

so u re a bankrupt AND have a 28 year old gf? is there smth wrong with her brains or she hasn't learned about your bankrupsy yet? i would understand if a wife sticks with u, but a gf ? and yes, it is too late for u to do anything. well, who said life is easy