Why am I like this?

Question

I think theres something wrong. I don't get caught up in the latest fashons, makeup etc; I prefer to be on my own, and am not interested in relationships in the slightest. Everything appears so superficial to me. My outlook is to the greater future. Is this wrong? I'm just hoping Im not the only one that feels this way.

Answer 1

Has anyone told you or suggested that something may not be right with you? The reason I'm asking is that I can hardly believe you'd ask this of yourself. You said you don't get "caught up" with fashions, make-up, etc...So, where did this self doubt come from? In my opinion, you're absolutely, perfectly normal! You obviously have an extremely level head on your shoulders & a future you are seeing off in the distance. That's the most sane, logical, rational, & intellectual sight to see. Fashions fade away, along with the money you've spent on them. Make-up?? It melts & rubs off when you don't want it to, but, it's harder than heck to get off when you're really trying! lol Plus, that's another expense. Hey, you're a real person. It seems to me that with you, what you see is what you get. No facades, no little white lies to improve your image, you know, all that good kind of stuff! Natural. And, as far as relationships are concerned, you're doing the best thing you could possibly do at this time, whether you mean to or not. Work hard, attain your goal, & when it's the right time for a relationship, you'll be the first to know. You are a role model, in my eyes. There are so many young, promising ladies out there (& gentlemen, too, I'm sure) that rush everything. All they seem to think about is that relationship. And, once it's there, they realize, years down the road, that they never got to follow their hearts, to chase their dreams, to reach the goal of that future they had mapped out for themselves, because relationships, alot of times, put a hold on anything a single person wants to attain. It's so hard, this world. I'm almost jealous of you. For I am one of those who thought that I needed a relationship & then my education would come later...Now, I have a husband of 11 yrs., 3 children (all boys-ages 13-10-8), & 16 yrs. after my high school graduation, I still have no further education. No chance to get a better paying job. Sometimes, other than my family, I feel I have accomplished nothing to be proud of. So, YOU GO GIRL!!! Make your dreams come true, make your future be your tomorrow, & know that you're doing this for all of us girls who should've had their heads screwed on as straightly as yours is! Sorry if this was too long & boring, but, I had to tell you how proud I am of you & I don't even know you!! Great luck to you, you deserve it!!! :)

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with you at all. As far as the latest fads and fashions, that is just people coping others trying to impress. Your better off going your own way. Those who have to certain clothes to be in style remind me of a herd of Gazelles. They all look and act the same. No personal identity. I tell my daughter that animals that live in herds are usually the ones that get eaten. As for relationships, some day the right one will come along and that will change for you. Until then no need to hurry.

Answer 3

Looking to the future is ok, as long as you're not trying to avoid the present. The detachment, lack of desire for a relationship, a hint of cynicism, is slightly concerning. You're right about the world being superficial, but you still need to be connected. You should have at least a friend or two for support, and there should be things you enjoy doing. Life's too short, make sure you take the time and make the effort to enjoy the moment.

Answer 4

Theres nothing wrong with you at all. Your on a different plane to all superficial and materialistic ideals that humans have created for themselves and feel no need to intertwine into this 'fad' hence the not wanting a relationship. Make the most of your independant thinking and live the life that suits YOU.

Answer 5

Praise God for a mind to reason and eyes to see the Truth! Chasing after the latest fashions is an unachievable task. Look to the future but act for the better good right now. You are not alone. Only it takes must of us a lot longer to figure out these simple truths. Beauty fades but God's love for us is eternal!

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong, and you're certainly not the only one that feels the way you do. Don't feel like you have to be caught up in the latest fashions and makeup trends just because "everyone else is." It's okay to not run with the crowd sometimes. :)

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with you. It's called maturity. Welcome to my world! :-)

As for relationships...I wish everyone would just wait until they meet the right person. Even if it takes years and years.

I do not agree with her politics, but look at Gloria Steinem. She held out until she met Mr. Right, even though she had to wait until she was something like 40. There were many attractive and rich men for her to choose from, but she waited. There is not one thing wrong with that. It is preferrable in fact. Honorable.


You are not alone.

May you know the Lord Jesus, and have a peaceful eternity.

Answer 8

I think that's a good thing, that you're looking ahead. However, there is no certainty of the future. The only thing you can be sure of is your today so enjoy today and plan as you should but live in the present, not the unknown future.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with you, you choose who you want to be, how you want to dress, what your interests are. As for me make-up personally i dont wear it because its not me.
What you want to do with your living lifestyle is completely up to you on how you dress, whats your interests, the latest things you like, thats what makes you who you are.

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with you. I am also left cold by fashion and "celebrity", and always have been. I do things that I find interesting, and to hell with the herd mentality.