He loves me he loves my kids he has been around them since the day they were both born my youngest was under 2lbs when she was born & he was the only one to sit in the hospital with us I was married to some1 else until my hubby passed away (this yr) & even when my hubby was here this guy has been my bestfriend & i mean we haven't had sex but he basically has been everything else always he has always played dad to both of my kids been more involved then their dad was we have known each other for years so we both finally took a jump & said that we want to be with eachother he wants to go ring shopping the thing is we haven't "dated" I mean is that even important hes already been everything I would ever look for in a guy & its not like i dont know him every1 keeps telling me not to jump cause I am only20 hes just over 30 doesnt have any kids wants to be a daddy to my kids & have another1 with me even willing to give up his job & move w/me when I finish my last year for my bachelors degree
2006-12-11 21:41:19 · 4 answers · asked by Hot Mom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think its too soon and it seems as if this man wants to be accountable to you and your children. I think its quite an honour. The question is DO YOU LOVE HIM? If so I see no reason why you should not get married. I think every woman dreams of a man who would come and sweep her off her feet and quite frankly i think you have found him. He wants to look after you and your children which is very big of him and if your children like him, why not? The only one who will know is you. If you are unsure, carry on dating a little longer and enjoying one another. True love often starts with a good friendship and you two appear to have a great friendship. 20 is not too young to get married, besides you have children and they do need a dad.; There is no doubt about that.
No one can really answer this wquestion, but possibly point you in a direction however this is something you willl know that you know that you know that you know deep down is right. If you know that and feel that go for it!
God bless you in the choice that you make!
Merry CHristmas. May God give you the desires of your heart!
2006-12-11 21:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the rush. Your together anyway. Date. Go out. Romance. Do things. If he's the one and your the one, thenit doesn't matter if you date for 5 years or are married for 5 years. Your still together. Only difference, it's work when you marry. It's play whe you date. It's not getting from point A to point B. It's the trip. Good luck.
2006-12-11 21:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by aka white knight 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should date first just because you won't feel like you rushed into it later and it makes it all more romantic. he needs to court you and you need to be courted even though you 2 have known each other for a long time. Age DOES NOT MATTER!!!! But you two should still date.
2006-12-11 21:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by living_dead_sandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax...if he has always been there that is good but take it slow..let yourself get your life together first then start to date..then in the future get married ...you want to be sure he is what you want first..if he has always been there then he should not have a problem taking it slow if he does then you know your anwser.
2006-12-11 21:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋