We've been friends for almost a month now
I treated him as my brother
After I got mad because he left me all of a sudden...
A few days later...he told me..
"I know this will sound bad. Don't cry when I tell you this, okay...You see...I can't be your friend...I don't take sacrifices, I'm not ready to be attached to anybody...I'm selfish...I only think about myself...I'm telling you this early so I won't disappoint you...So...it's better if we could end this friendship now...I hope you're not regretting...You know me from the very start...I easily tire of a person...I'm not a good friend...This is who I am...I can never change it..."
Then my other friend told me
"He noticed something when you're with him....He told you that because it would be hard for you when he leaves you when your friendship lasts long...And you know him, he easily tires of a person...If he leaves you one day, you'll be really hurt.,..but he told me he didn't leave you...He can never do that"
2006-12-11 21:32:33 · 8 answers · asked by acerbus18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He said he's still my friend...But not like the old days...
2006-12-11 21:33:17 · update #1
Sounds like this young man cares a lot about you, but doesn't want to show that. He was there as a friend and the feelings may have become too strong for him to be comfortable... Or it could be exactly as he said, he's not a good friend.
Some people just aren't good friends and don't know how to connect how people need them.
My suggestion is to just step back and let him have his space. If he finds that he can be your friend then he will come back.
In the meantime, just know that you shouldn't depend so much on another person... it shows that you are dependent on another person and it can scare people away if you aren't careful.
2006-12-11 21:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.... i'm totally feeling you on this one my best friend is also we guys which we just recently went through not quite the same situation but it was more of a make or break situation.
MY guess is honestly he's scared he knows ur too good to him, it kinda also sounds like u guys have more than just a friendship there maybe some feelings that are there and arn't being delt with. IF that be the case i'm sure we can relate.
it might be he's scared actually be attached he's been so self centered for so long finally having someone else to think about might be to big of a change to handle so he's rather end it now before its worse but wut they don't realize there's never a right time whether they do it now or later it's all thr same, may it be a friendship or a realtionship it's all the same you both can care about eachother so much it honestly becomes one.... and it gets hard really its fear there thats in the way all u have to do is talk it out.
I'm sure we can relate if u'd like to talk or know more feel free to ask but i'm sure all will be well in the end
2006-12-11 21:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by roxyangel0007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 07:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. atleast he cared to tell u to keep away from him. Probably he is afraid of developing attachments with you and knows fully well that he cant commit the relationship. Instead of dissappointing u, he chooses to goaway. He 'sacrificed' you for both of ur hapiness. Understand that sacrifices are done in greater love. He's not bad either, infact he is very best. U move on in life; if he is really is urs, he will return back to you.
2006-12-11 21:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by sidsct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u notice him and tell him that this is not the end of our friendship we will be friends forever and friends for each other well thats what i woud do.OR JUST **** HIM AND MAKE ANOTHER FRIEND AND HE ALSO cares about you that is why he is being frank .just a month gal of knowing .please move on before you get hurt.
2006-12-11 21:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by i am not a lovely girl i am cute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still want to be your friend he'll come and talk to you......don't worry if he doesnt there are plenty of other people who you can make friends with dont let one person ruin everything!!
2006-12-11 22:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One MONTH? All this over someone you've known a MONTH? Grow up!!! People come and go, get used to it.
2006-12-11 21:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares about you that is why he is being frank .just a month gal of knowing .please move on before you get hurt.
2006-12-11 21:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by yamulilo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋