i am 24 and i have been married too my husband for just over 1 year. we have been together for over 5 years and have 2 children together... I love him.. But on the odd occasion that we do have sex, he is thinking of someone else he calls the other persons name, he thinks of the other person tells me what he wants to do with the other person this includes my sister and best friend. I am trying to just let it pass because he was a virgin when we first met but now it just keeps getting worse, i have put up with it for 5 years and it is really starting to cause some problems in our relationship and the the relationship with my sister and best friend (they don't know that he does it) i told him that it really hurts and upsets me and he says he is sorry but the next time it happens again.. I don't really want to leave him but i have considered it because i just don't know what else too do.
Please i really need some advice.
2006-12-11 21:26:07 · 6 answers · asked by elfsbabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to have a serious word with him because that just is not on. When he is having sex with you he's not meant to be thinking about someone else. You need to have another word with him about this and tell him that this is bothering and upsetting you and that he needs to try and stop it.
Don't leave him, but consider not having sex with him until he tells you what the problem is because there is obviously something wrong
2006-12-11 21:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned if the same thing is happening to me. I don't know the other details of your relationship but it seems as if you are implying that he is having an affair or is on the verge of doing it... the fact that you have put up with it for 5 years shows that you have been aware of his behavior.
I believe that things can be worked out, but maybe you have to have a serious talk and possibly also counseling (with the both of you in session, not just you) to make this marriage work out!
2006-12-11 21:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good situation. Doesn't sound like you have much of a sex life and then when you do get intimate, he is thinking about and talking about other women....Hmmmmm, I can certainly see why this would upset you....you need to have a serious conversation with him...not when you are having sex or about to have sex. If it continues, you need to decide if you can live with him having fantasies about others everytime you are intimate or not....good luck I hope he smartens up....
2006-12-11 22:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally disrespectful to you, tell him it has to stop now. Don't be all nice about it, tell him it is unacceptable and that if he does not stop then you will start calling out other people's names as well, this is totally appalling, how could you have put up with this for so long?
2006-12-11 23:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some serios counseling that would be the way to go.That is just plain wrong.
2006-12-11 22:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Louis K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he calls someone elses name during sex...slap him and leave....
THAT AIN'T RIGHT !!!
2006-12-11 21:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by admiralawesome2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋