My wife and I seperated two and a half years ago.
We have a four year old daughter, whom I now see regularly and make voluntary maintenance payments for her upbringing.
At the time it was not an amicable split, and she, her boyfriend and their friends made my life miserable, making threats, stopping me seeing my little girl and damaging my property.
I reported these events to the police and she was charged with harrassment in court.
This went on her CRB record; she worked as a healthcare professional, and when she applied for re-registration it was refused on the grounds of her having a harrassment charge on her CRB record when it was checked.
She is having her case reviewed next week; is there anything she can do to help her to get her job back?
2006-12-11 20:39:33 · 12 answers · asked by Mr. Insecurity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think so, but it's nice of you to be concerned for her.
She's reaping what she's sown now, especially as it sounds like she was the guilty party in your break-up, as it was her who had a boy-friend.
You had a right to protect and defend yourself. You've got nothing to feel bad about.
2006-12-11 20:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a fool if you have anything more to do with this woman. Don't think she will appreciate the help for a second. You were ditched because she didn't need YOU anymore, only your money.
You did the right thing by having her charged at the time. Don't doubt that. Things would likely have escalated had you not. This help from you now may be twisted at a later date to appear sinister and be used against you.
You probably won't listen since you seem deadset on helping her, but I have seen it happen so many times. The exact situation you are describing. A guy has compassion for someone he rightfully stood up to earlier (usually a woman) and they use the tears to get him just close enough to stab him in the back.
Answer: You can, but you shouldn't.
2006-12-11 21:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Solaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Is your ex attending the review or is this done in private and then reported to her. If she can attend, maybe you could go with her and explain that it was a messy divorce with both parties exhibiting vindictive behavior., or you might write a letter explaining the situation. I am not sure if either of these ideas will be successful, but it is worth a try. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 20:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can write a letter to the review board explaining the situation and stating that you have forgiven her for the unfortunate incident and hope the board wont hold it against her. Do this without her knowledge. This doesnt make sense why theyre holding this against her as its not a major deal and is in the past. People have to realize that their actions will someday come back to haunt them and this is a good example unfortunately
2006-12-11 20:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you and your ex-wife now have a better relationship. This has got to be good news for everyone, especially your daughter.
To be honest though, I don't think she should get her job back. I wouldn't want to be looked after in a health setting by anyone who was capable of this sort of behaviour.
There are quite enough unprofessional, bullying types in health care professions as it is, without taking on someone who has a criminal record for harrassment.
2006-12-11 20:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can show up in person tell them she pay for everything she did and she told you that she was sorry and you never want to go this far inwhere its hurt her job or her life and you are asked that over look also she can go to court and file to have it dismiss if she has complete all of her term that way when she go for a job it will show dismiss good luck
2006-12-11 20:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a solicitor or free legal line I am positive you could write an affidavit saying it was her bf not her.
2006-12-11 20:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww wot a nice guy
single? ;)
sorry cant help re the crb
2006-12-14 07:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to do like this she may be again like previous.S dont invite problems again.
2006-12-11 20:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to help her when her new b/f and their new friends are causing you grief. Let the B*TCH suffer!
2006-12-12 00:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋