one night she got drank and sleeped with a man she liked??
2006-12-11 20:28:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
What I could only say is that since she knew she is not ready for sex why did she got herself drank. It is not advisable for teens (both girls and boys to get their selves drank) but now that it has already happened; she is pregnant and she don't want the baby now, the only advice I could give is that she should tell his man that is responsible for the baby and they should both plan on their next move (and please don't think of abortion because it stains life and destine) and they should both prepare and face what the future holds for them. Understanding matters, they should both face the challenge and bring up the baby. It is the Lord that care for person; not our might or power. I pray that may the good God help her to overcome this trial because she caused it herself and I know by know that she will have learn her forever-in-memory lesson.
2006-12-11 20:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dessy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she's less than 3 months pregnant, RUN her to a Planned Parenthood. There she can discuss all of her options. Those are adoption, keeping it and abortion. If she's more than 3 months pregnant, it's unlikely that she'll be able to get an abortion. Abortion isn't really as scary as people pretend it is. I had a surgical abortion at 14 weeks and 6 days pregnant. It was okay. I'm glad I had that choice. You can visit www.plannedparenthood.org for more information about unplanned pregnancy and what to do about it. Don't pressure her into anything. Give her the information and let her make the choice that is right for her. There are counsellors at Planned Parenthood who are experienced in dealing with this sort of thing and can help her. DO NOT TAKE HER TO AN EMERGANCY PREGNANCY COUNSELING CENTRE! These centres are only there to promote female ignorance and scare women away from abortions. Planned Parenthood or your local teen sexual health clinic is best.
If your friend had sex without wanting to, she was raped. It doesn't matter if she was drunk or sober. If she said no or was too intoxicated to be able to say no, she was raped. If she can prove that the sex was infact nonconsensual or if the man she had sex with is much older than her (and you're living somewhere where 16 is younger than the age of consent), she can raise rape or statitory rape charges against this man.
Ignore the ignorant people here. They are the ones with the real problems.
2006-12-11 21:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
mmm..Sticky situation. I know how easily this can happen, it's a shame when she is so young. Well no point crying over spilt milk.. I think her best bet is to have a real good chat with her family and friends and even the father of the kid. If the father is a nice guy and is prepared to support her through the pregnency and help bring up the child, and she thinks she can handle the commitment of having a child and no more parties and alcahol/drugs well then maybe it is not such a bad thing to have a child at 16. If the father is not keen she can still bring the child up with out any problems as long as she is mature and does her research well. Your friend must be more responsible when drinking... Condoms are really effective..I hope this helps your friend decide how to get out of her predicement. . Good luck
2006-12-11 20:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should call the cops on the guy.
If she didn't want sex, she was raped.
If she was drunk, she was raped, even if she said she wanted to and even if the guy was drunk too.
If you are drunk you cannot consent.
Tell her not too listen to people who blame her, it wasn't her fault and she shouldn't be punished for what happened.
The guy should go to jail.
If she wants and abortion, that is her choice, and she should seriously consider it.
It's actually for the good of the child as well as for her own good.
The kid's life would be terribly messed up knowing that he or she exists because of an act of violence that their mother didn't want to happen.
2006-12-12 01:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that your frind need to be a little more responsible. Why is she drinking if she is 16? Where are her parents?!
I would not however, advise your friend to have an abortion. Most women never recover (emotionally) from one and there can be physical complications too. There are many infertile couples out there who would happily adopt your freinds baby. You can IM me with your location and I can put you in touch with someone who can help if you like.
2006-12-11 20:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by MrsC 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Absolutly no damage can come to the infant if the guy is sparkling and healthful. If any adult males you sleep with has an STD and also you get it,, that may damage the infant. Or ought to he God Forbid have AIDS then you actually threat the infant. STD can kill a fetus. so so you may be careful. Your best with one sexual companion. for your sake you ought to get checked for stds
2016-10-18 03:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the kid. Sue the guy for support.
But whatever your friend does... don't marry the guy simply because he got her pregnant! Seems like common sense, but in case she comes from conservative families she must understand that most of those kind of marriages end badly.
2006-12-11 20:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by ragdefender 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a mess. Tell your parents give the baby up for adoption. Than learn to type.
2006-12-11 20:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by duuh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your friend has been raped. Instead of asking us, pick up the phone and call the rape hotline in your area. They will assist you and her in many more ways then anyone in here ever will be able to do.
2006-12-12 01:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, she "did" sex because she wanted to. Did somebody hold a gun to her head? And did somebody force her to get drunk and "sleeped" with a man she liked? If she doesn't want the baby, tough!
2006-12-11 21:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋