Suggestions from indians?

Question

Can anyone share their experience of divorced indian women remarrying with an infant. what are the difficulties? what are benefits?

Answer 1

Hi there,

I am an indian women. I am not divorced but would like to share my opnion with you. I strongly feel that if you feel that if you fall in love with someone you should marry. Ya sure there will be people who will talk about thing.... but than who are they to make decisions about somebody elses life. These people are not going to come and help you in your diffcult times, they can only talk but in the time of help nobody steps forward.

Your relationship with your friend will go where you want your relationship to go in this indian community.If you have started developing feelings for this friend of yours its ok. Nothing wrong in it. If you both have divorced recently than you both can take it a little slow. Currently you can do the talking and sharing problems, discussing what went wrong etc. This way you both will know the do's and dont's. In this period he will have time to have a bond with the child and even you will know how he feels about the kid.

After a little while you can tell him and if he reciprocates than you can think of a better and brighter future together.

And if you guys are just friends than remain that way don't change anything after all you both can mentally support each other. If love has to happen it will or else friendship is a beautiful bond all by itself.

Life goes on friend and you have to find true happiness. First do good for yourself and your child.

Good Luck & God Bless

Answer 2

You are not clear whether the child is woman's or the man's. anyways. widow remarriage occurs in terms of money, fame, properties and in very very few cases, in terms of true love. Men dont take the widow as she is i.e with her kid and her present status. Its only the other annexures which comes along with her in the marriage which attracts him. this happens in most of the cases. Many painful stories of such remarried women is not publicised.

Men only seek fame and soft corner from the family side and the society by marrying a widow in the pretext of giving her second life. At the same time woman's mind also compares between the two life she had lived and living at present which leads to many complications later in life. Its the bitter experience of such woman I know, that the man who married her always referred her previous life, husband and the kid for every moment in her life. she was forced to divorce him.

experiences may vary. so you can depend on other answerers too.

Answer 3

It would be difficult to find a good guy who is not married, who will be willing to marry a divorcee and take care of achild.

there could be complications of the choild not getting suitable care from the dad. I think she cant have two. She has to choose one. There are two possible from my experience:

1. The baby should be brought by the grandparents and she married

2. Marry within a close family,

Answer 4

I am not Indian and as such do not have an experience but I guess the difficulties should be much the same... children.. etc... And laws.. sure

Answer 5

Sure. If you are divorced, you have to sign the legal documents. If you have met someone you think who is more worthy for you, then go ahead, and lead a happier life.

Your child is very young, and I think in time as he grows, he'll learn to live with the established family.

Answer 6

you will find extreams here there r who donot mind marrying awoman with an infant and there r some for who it hardly matters if all clicks BUT i will advise you only one thing that before marriage to who ever tell him to first make him sign papers for adoption of the child first if u se hesitation then u know he is not worth marrying

Answer 7

a free feed

Answer 8

YES YAH

Answer 9

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