Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Question

This is a very long story folks but I will try to make it short as possible. My boyfriend & I live together and have been dating for a year. He got this new job working as a manager. I work at the restaurant as a waitress. I work from the time I wake up (9am) until 3pm. He works from 1pm until 12pm at night. When he comes home he spends 20 minutes with me then goes on the computer to take care of his online business and then we go to bed. He wants to continue this for 2 months. He claims he is saving and working hard so we can get our own place. What should I do in this situation. I have nothing to do from 3pm until 12pm. I just sit at home missing him. I tried to get waitressing late shifts but they already have 3 girls and they don't need me. Should I break up with him? How should I handle this? I'm so sick of only spending 20 minutes a day with him..and to think it's going to be like this for the next 3 months! Please give me advice....I am welcoming all thoughts. Thank you so much

Answer 1

No you shouldn't break up, if you love him. Three month is not long for a real love. If you really love him, you can wait. He isn't on a trip for fun, he is working for your future.

Answer 2

I know how you feel, my hubby works 2 jobs and we have 2 kids together i see him for less than 20 mins a day, why don't you ask him too show you how to do the online stuff than you can do what you can too reduce the amount of time he needs too be online and it gives you something to do while he is at work.. also security of a house is worth all the hard work that you are both putting in.. another thing you could do is see if you can get a job at another restaurant from 3pm or what ever you need to finish one job and get too the other... Don't give up yet sometimes these things work themselves out.

Answer 3

He's obviously working hard for BOTH of you. Being the significant other is always better. It doesn't seem as though he is cheating on you. Maybe make it aware that you would like him to take a day off so you two can go do something together for the day. Also, maybe you being so needy and dependent on him is scarying him off to not spend as much time w/ you. All people, especially men hate to be dependent on so much, go get a life besides him and then he'll start craving your attention more. Maybe while he is at work, don't just sit there on your lazy *** and miss him, but cook/bake him something he would love to eat that the restaurant doesn't have. He'll love that you are being productive and doing something for him while he was away. This will definitly trigger his emotions and time for you more.

Answer 4

The fact that you're asking the question shows you are not ready for any kind of a long term commitment with this guy. When I got married my husband worked 3pm to Midnight. I worked 8 am to 4:30. I was in bed when he got home from work and he was in bed when I got up to go to work. I had weekends off and he got Mondays and Wednesdays off. It was tough. But I never once thought of leaving him because I loved him. And eventually, our situation changed and we were able to be with each other more. If you are willing to give up so quickly, you are not ready for a commitment. Break up with him and find someone who will devote all his time to you so that you don't have to be inconvenienced in your relationship.

Answer 5

Well if it's only 3 months...and if you truly love him..then make it work....for example

I'm in the military....I'm deployed right now for 4 stinkin months (others is 6 to a year..but this is my case), i can only TALK to my fiance for only 15 stinkin minutes..TWICE a week. Course on occasion i'll take risks and get some extra talk time in...but for the most part the rules stand as is.

Particularly the same situation, and i know my baby loves me and is faithful, and i am the same...hence i know i can take the time and patience to wait....does it suck? HELL YES it does....especially when you go from 3 months of freakin amazing sex to....sittin here amongst a bunch of desert hoes and dirty *** work. But do i have the time and patience to wait, because i know after 4 months i'll have my baby again so we can pick up where we left off on the amazing sex and hell just having her back in my arms? HELL YES...she is my priority and my life....and so as hard as the distance is..she's worth the wait.

SO..with that little example, instead of pondering breaking up because of the time....ponder more on if he's WORTH the wait. At LEAST you have those wonderful 20 minutes....i'd kill and take a bullet from friendly fire for at least that much in my situation. So if you 2 TRULY love each other, and he's worth it..and you KNOW it's just 3 months....then maybe this is just a test or challenge life has given you to accomplish. And probably make your relationship that much stronger.

OR...if you feel he isn't someone long-term...then move on in life....you are control of your own destiny and decisions...and for you, you have to go where you'll be happy AND stable. You're not married, so technically you're still in 'dating' mode....so that's solely up to you.

Hope it helps....not a surefire answer, but they're valid options out of random common sense from me...so.....have at it!

Answer 6

First make sure that he really is doing what he says he is doing on the computer. It also seems like you're dependent on him for a place to live. If you really like him and he is trying to do what he says he is trying to do, then look at the current things as just a minor setback for a major comeback. Sure you might have to sacrifice the time you spend with him, but you might get it back and then some when he finishes doing what he's doing. You could also visit him during his shifts at the job and talk to him on his break or something.

Answer 7

Find yourself another job, a evening job, as a waitress you get better tips on evenings and weekends. Don't ask him to change his job or complain to him about only spending 20 minutes with him. He is doing his best to get a place for both of you. Give him a chance and don't make this a big deal. Why would you think about breaking up with him? Don't focus on the problems, focus on solutions...

Answer 8

hummm.. u know what id u cant handle it u should just break up with him,.. i mean their are other guys out there for u! U know.... 20 minutes a day is good too i mean i wish i can have that every day with my boy friend we only see each other on the weekend.
ok u know what u can do from 3pm to 12 is read a book or learn another lauage! :) Or do something u like to do.......Learn something new:) Cause if he is claiming what he is doing then he loves u a lot and want u to have a good life...

Answer 9

Is it true or you write an essay based on some story?

If both of you have a mutually understanding life style, he will spend more time with you during the free time. I am not sure what kind of on line business in which he is involved in!!! Also Your cooperation very much essential while he comes to you!!

Answer 10

Nah..breaking up is a bad idea. I am sure u want to be with him a lot n ur sick of not being with him but if he is really doing it for the best( like u stated ...place of our own) then 3 months isnt that long u should try to be strong n wait. everything will come out to the best.

Answer 11

Synchronizing your schedules would certainly e better, but if you can't do that right now, then either find yourself some fun things to do while he's gone or keep looking for another job with the same shift. If everything else is great, I wouldn't let him go.