I am unable to say anything to them or ask them to do anything without them yelling back at me. I did start just doing what needed to be done so they wouldn't yell at me, but I know that's not the answer. I try to advise them on their behavior and their responses are even worse. They seem to have changed overnight from my two sweet kids to people I don't know! Please is there any help out there?
2006-12-11 19:00:30 · 6 answers · asked by ginger 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
first you need to STOP advising them on their behavior and START telling the what needs to be done.
You also need to understand that 12 and 13 years old are bullies. Same as in school. They do what they do cause they know they can get away with it.
When you talk to them and they start yelling at you. Stop and look at them. "are you done yelling at me"? then start talking to them again. If they start yelling again, stop, look at them "are you done yelling at me"? then start talking again.
It will either sink in they way they talk to you or they will get tired of listening to you and let you talk so will finish faster.
Also every time they yell at you punish them. In what ever way works. Some kids you can send to their room some kids you have take sometime away.
Like evertime they yell, no phone, or no tv. or cleaning out the garage.
Rememeber teen agers act the way they act cause they know they can get away with it. Make sure they know they can not get away with it.
DO NOT GIVE IN. DO NOT CAVE!!
Good Luck.
2006-12-11 19:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello I am 19 years old and have never done this to my parents.
We all change.
But you have to set limits.
Its not easy.
When was the last time you spent time with your children.
Had a simple talk.
Kids crave parent time.
Try simply talking to them to get to the rut of the prablem.
Yes kids yell and scream and right back.
But my parants would have had my butt if I did that.
Talking is the only way I know.
Their young I was their age not that long ago.
School could be presuring them.
Spending time and talking to your children is the best answer I know of.
I hope this helps.
-Jaimi
2006-12-12 03:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by AAA HI? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not an overnight thing! it takes months.
don't try to correct past behavior because that makes them upset!
don't be to lenient because then they think their boss.
try getting them to sit down with you at their favourite resturant and just talk about what's going on. ask what they think you should stop and then tell them what you believe is inappropriate.
Do this in public because whether or not they would like to scream they will most likely be to shy to have a bunch of strangers staring.
use there weakness of what peers think to hold them at bay and don't finish eating till everyone is happy with the arrangement.
If it still doesn't work, look at there peers at school/sports etc.
they may just need room to grow
GoOd LuCk!!!!!
2006-12-12 03:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by A!mEe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling is unacceptable and you are providing for them. I would say school is rough and normally that is what they are bringing to you let them know your there for them but if yelling is going to go on that things with be takin away like TV, PHONE, DATES ETC. Why should you reward that behavior. I have two teenagers and I don't reward that behavior and they respect me alot.
2006-12-12 04:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by G girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 and 13 is not too old for a good spanking!
2006-12-12 06:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by O'Shea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consider that drugs may be involved here.
2006-12-12 04:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋