I guess it has been a theory that women do.
I just wanted to know how women feel and how far and for what reasons would you have that fantasy?
2006-12-11 18:16:53 · 14 answers · asked by Namaste 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It was Freud who had the theory
2006-12-11 18:20:09 · update #1
Yup. But then again, there's hardly a fantasy I haven't given consideration to, and found at least mildly erotic.
I suppose it's hard to say what is rape, in these cases. If you want rape, then it invalidates the term- it becomes somewhat more like forceful, violent sex, but nonetheless sex that you want. And if you don't want it, then getting pleasure from it is impossible.
I have my own theory- that the women who do want this do not, in fact, want to be raped, per se, but to be at the hands of a strong man (or woman) who would, were she not willing, then rape her. She is willing- she wants it- but if she didn't, the sex would still be forced on her, and that's what makes her want it, the knowledge that she is, indeed, helpless at her 'rapist's' mercy. It is an act of ultimate surrender. So she may struggle and protest and push away (in her fantasy) because it is only more demonstrative of this power imbalance. The desire for such a helplessness and complete lack of power or control doesn't mean anything bad about the women- they can be strong, proud, independent women in their lives, but have this secret feeling that they occasionally like to indulge with a fantasy. It doesn't indicate masochism, a desire to be hurt, or any other psychological impairment.
Some women may also enjoy it because it allows them the "freedom" to do acts that they would not otherwise do. For example, a woman may be too timid in her mind to admit an interest in anal sex or multiple partners, but if her fantasy rapist(s) tie her down and force it upon her, then she has no choice but to be part of the act, to surrender to it, and enjoy it because it is not a choice she made, and thus doesn't reflect on her. This is very common.
As for me, I would never want to be raped in real life. It's a horrible, terrible, awful thing. But I like my fantasies raunchy, and if that means running away from a man who's chasing me and finally pins me to the ground, from being held down and screwed by a roving band of butch lesbians, to having a gun at the temple of my head as I lower my mouth to suck on whatever I'm being forced to suck in a dirty alleyway. . . then I enjoy them. Implicit in it all is that I want this (otherwise how could it be my fantasy?) and the mode of rape is a means to express these power dynamics.
Hope that helps!
2006-12-11 18:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of my female friends have admitted that they often enjoy this fantasy. It's not my cup of tea though. The deserted island one is better. lol!
Women might have this fantasy, but of course they wouldn't want to be raped in real life or be over powered by a man.
2006-12-11 18:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Manx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, if you have a fantasy about being raped, then it's not rape. It's, although admittedly rough, just sex. Rape is when you don't want sex but they force you into anyway. No wait...I get what you're saying. Hell no! If I'm gonna have sex, I'd like to at least be aware of the decision to have sex being made!
2006-12-11 18:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by fliptastic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a man but it's kind of a fantasy to be raped by two women.
2006-12-11 18:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
thin line between sex and violence. i've had a fantasy, and play acted , the rapist part. Powerful feeling. In real life rape is a never. Be gentlemen out there gentlemen. Ladies, don't tease, be clear a concise in your wording.
Add alcohol and all deals are off.
Keep having sex everyone!
2006-12-11 18:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-12-11 18:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dallas Chic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a straight woman and i have fantasy about two woman raping me because i think i will be good i don't know why.
2006-12-12 02:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Melody M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like it when guys are rough with me, like tie me up or hold down my hands. BUT i would never, ever, ever want to be raped by someone. Never.
2006-12-11 18:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if it were consentual.but otherwise no.but to make love to someone your in love with then still no.but if you would like to be friends and are you a girl.and if you are i want to be your friend.a
and we can talk or have fun while we talk.so please get in touch with me.
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2006-12-12 05:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have....but i wouldnt want a guy to rape me
it is complicated.......i like being held down by my bf sometimes, or tied up, but i dont want some random guy to come attack me
2006-12-11 18:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by amybabe29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋