does my best guy friend like me as more than friends? (im a guy)?

Question

i hav this guy friend named "tom", we hav been friends for about 5-6 yrs. we hav gotten really close for the past 2-3 years. we always go to the movies, clubs, parties, hang out together (most of the time just us 2). n i think im fallin for him--i find myself thinkin/dreamin bout him/us a lot. the problem is i dont know how he feels bout me!,or of his sexual orientation--i mean, he's told me he would like to hav a gf so that when we goes to parties w/ his other friends he wont just sit there by himself.
he confuses me b/c sumtimes it seems like his givin me hints, but others, he doesnt seem that interested in me/us.
ive also given him hints. we went to myrtle beach for fall break n slept on one bed. that night, it seemed like he was playin foot-c w/ me, we touched backs. n i threw my arm over his waist pretendin to be asleep. at times he locked his feet w/ mine. when i talk to him i look @ him in the eyes, n smile freaquently, n sumtimes i get the same vive. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?

see, we both act straight/"normal". when we go out, sumtimes he offers to pay for everything, n other times i do the same. just last night we went to the movies, we went back to his place afterwards. i used the excuse to show him sum pics on my phone to get really close to him from behind, he didnt even flinch. but what im cofused is if he does what he does b/c of our good friendship, or b/c he might feel the same for me? for ex. the other day, i went into his room while he was takin a shower to pick him up to see a movie (he told his sis that he didnt want to go), well, he came out nude barely coverin himself w/his towel (not my intensions to see him nude). he didnt make a big deal--just asked when i had gotten there, n stood there as i explained why i was there--he agreed to go that night. things like that make me think that he might hav sumthin for me. i want to tell him, but im just afraid i might be wrong n that would lead to the end of our friendship. WHAT ELSE COULD I DO???

yeah, ive tried to spend as much time as possible, and he almost all the time accepts to do sumthing w/ me (mostly movies). one time i took him to an art musium in athens. afterwards we stoped at a mall n went through the stores. i tryed things on and ask him if he liked it on me, he replied it looked really good. i did the same to him. i mean, we hav grown really close as friends (but dont other straight guy friends do things similar to what we do?)...i guess thats what im really after, if what we do is considered "normal" for straight guy friends to do? ...if not, im running out of things do to, or things to say to him to get/ give more hints from/to him. What else could i do or say?

see, ive tried to place ourself in situations where i could make a move on him, but they arent really workin. What would be the BEST situation i can set up to make a move? n what could that be? ...iv though of just reachin out n kiss him, or maybe tell him that i was unsure of my sexual orientation n let him know that i was interested in him. WHAT WOULD U SUGGEST?

Answer 1

from everythin u said, i certanly sounds like he likes u, but u can never be too sure until u hear him say it urself.

it sounds like u both might hav feelins for each other, but are afraid to say anythin bout it. ...just relax n wait for the "perfect" moment to tell him that u are gay/bisexual. let him know that u just want him to know, n nothin else, that way he wont feel pressured to do sumthin w/ the info u just provided him. if he truely likes u, he will use that opportunity to tell u that he likes u as well.

keep spendin as much time w/ him as u can. giv him complements (hints), etc. n when u guys are alone one night, take a deep breath, and just tell him. dont worry about what he'll say or might think, b/c that will only hold you back. Just Say It!

i wish u good luck w/ that, n let me know how it went :)

Answer 2

I have the same problem, no one really shares the same interests as me, and even I get down sometimes because I know for a fact that i have a hard time fitting in at high school, and never will. I did at one time for about three months in the second semester of grade 9 in early 2009. I will never forget that time, I still think about it everyday, of that time when i actually fit in with a group and had friends. after that year was over they graduated, and I was left alone again which sucked, but I found that I needed to employ a good work ethic to fill the lonely void of not having many social options. So I just concentrated on where I wanted to go in life, and what I wanted to do, and eventually it all worked out and I am near the end of high school just 2 months left pretty much, and then i am gone.

Answer 3

You are both young men in the middle of puberty if I am guessing your age right.
It sounds like you have no doubt about your feelings and your friend may or may not share the feelings.
If your alone sometime and he complains about a headach or backache offer a massage...without expecting anything...and see what happens.
If you have the courage you could, very confidently, lay it on the line with some care in your choice of words. For example you could be very authentic and tell him the truth exactly like you wrote the question (good job on that by the way). Your feelings should not ruin your friendship but a fantasy might. Keep it real.
Be prepared to accept he may not have the same feelings and respect that if it is true. Also be prepared to love yourself even if your friend does reject you. Your feelings are not bad but some people do not understand.
Good luck and know that you are not alone.

Answer 4

If he was playing footsie with you and you two were physically touching each other in that remark then sure he might like you. But that's a might, he could just be curious and try it out since you two are close. You'll never know till you give him time which you're going to have to face a lot of impatience because usually people who are curious or haven't come out of the closet (unless he is already bi) take so much time. BUT my friend if you are with him 24/7 and he grows VERY comfortable around you (if he isn't already) then luck's on your side :) I'd advise you to spend a lot of time with him and ask him certain questions that doesn't make him feel uncomfortable similar to bonding.

Answer 5

I would like to give you my opinion

I once had the same thing happen to me, I let it go and to this day I regret that I stood there and said nothing...

I think you should approach him and tell him the truth, tell him that you are gay and the reason that you are confiding in him is because you want to be up front with him and that you don't want to keep a secret from him...

it's better to know up front and to be upfront before your situation gets worse...you could loose a friend or you could gain a friend.

Your best bet for the two of you is to find out as soon as possible...be fair, because you are gay and he might/or might not be and if he really values you he will accept you either way...

He could be like some of my friends and accept you for who you are and keep you as a boyfriend or a best friend...

I wish you luck...

PS let me know how it turns out!!!

Answer 6

It sounds like he has a thing for you. If you are that much into him, then sometimes you just have to take a chance. "Can I kiss you?" "What would you say if I told you I want to be with you?" If you really want something...you have to go after it. You could just be patient...bide your time, keep up the flirting and he may make the move. It may be a long time...or may not happen. I say take a chance. It depends on how you see him. Are you willing to risk the friendship? Some risks are worth taking.

Answer 7

He might be kinda curious about it but afriad to say something. Oh.... Myrtle Beach, eh? Gotta love SC! :-)

I have a friend that will kiss me on the cheek but claims to be 100% straight. The line between straight and bi/gay is different for every guy. Did you know that 80% of people are bi? It's just that most lean toward one gender the most that they can just forget about the gay feelings.

Answer 8

Sounds like he's got feelings for you - but he's probably struggling with coming out of closet (that's why you get the mixed signals - the same dude who's hugging on you in the bed talks about wanting a girlfriend)

Give him time - he might end up being your boyfriend

Answer 9

Try to find out if he ever had a girlfriend.Or.when you guys go out watch carefully where 's he looking-if he's watching guys or girls.As you are describing it I'd think he's gay(I have lots of gay friends)

Answer 10

yes he do like you ,because u said one day you guys slept at the same bed touching backs e.t.c