why do they say that relationships that start in infidelity never last?

Question

and why dont rebounds last?

Answer 1

I think the answer is the same in both cases - because the starting point for a relationship is who the new partner is NOT, i.e. the ex or partner being cheated on, rather than who they are.

Answer 2

First I wish to say my best in whatever your situation is.

In a relationship of a good value, failed or weakened, it is always better to end it before moving on to something new. The word infidelity construes a lack of character or the inability to end something. It denotes someone who is afraid of being alone and wishing to keep the original relationship going (failing or otherwise) while exploring the new relationship potential. Statistically the relationship which starts in infidelity will not last, but that is not to say that there is no hope for a cheater. In the end one also has to look to the other person as well. What man or woman would wish to breakup a relationship. I for one would feel more comfortable with the person if I know they have ended the failer relationship. Short answer. Generally speaking from practice, a person who is the cheater typically shows a frail psychological profile and will eventually perceverate of the ordeal once the sense of frontal reasoning reaches a maturation worth a confidence in ending something before starting something new.

Answer 3

many different factors, they may have false expectations of that person being someone who they are not, they may not know the person all that well and discover differences... the fact that they may cheat again is also an underlying factor but only in some cases... they put the second person up on a pedestal thinking that they are going to be better than the person they were with, only to discover they have flaws in other ways... not saying that it doesnt work because occasionally it does, Im not bragging but I left my ex not for another person because there were other factors put into play but, I was dating that person within the three days after we split up. We have been together for six years, never cheated on each other and have a very open and honest relationship, it also can depend on age and emotional maturity as well. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt. I dont honestly understand why people say that maybe because statistically speaking the amount of doomed relationships outweighs the possibility of a relationship not lasting more so then an average relationship... but its not always true

Answer 4

The problem with relationships that start in infidelity is that you know the other partner is CAPABLE. And you also know how convincing they are... You have basically seen the worst of your partner, instead of the best. That is enough to shake the trust of any person.

Also, some rebounds may last, but the majority are started for the wrong reasons, like revenge, and usually the person is not chosen for the right reasons, and the two are just not compatible.

Answer 5

What comes around goes around!

If your lady cheated on her man to be with you what is stopping her from cheating on you?...shes slready done it once. The trust factor is shot BEFORE the relationship begins (usually occurs after the honeymoon periods over).

People in relationships, especially longterm, fall into habits i.e. sleeping together with your partner and companionship (opposed to sleeping and being alone)

These habits are part the reason why people rebound in the first instance. Add emotion to the mix and you rebound. Low and behold before long you realise you may not have many things in common with this person or you dont like their habits or you realise you dont really like this person at all.

In any case a rebound is beginning a relationship for all the wrong reasons

Answer 6

Relationships started in infidelity never last because someone was cheating on another person to be with the one they are with currently. And since the "once a cheater, always a cheater" rule applies to most, chances are good that one will start cheating.

Answer 7

If you start your relationship in infidelity everything may go well for a long time, but sooner or later when you start hitting rocky patches and you need trust between you and your partner you will remember how easy it was to cheat with them and therefore will have to deal with problems with much less trust than people would who started their relationships honestly.

Answer 8

Rebounds are all mental...if you are not looking for a rebound you will not have one.....Relationships that start with infidelity don't start off with trust.

Answer 9

They say that because that person has already shown that they have low standards if they were cheating on their previous mate. If a person no longer wants to be with someone they should split up before they start a relationship with someone else. By not doing so, they are being unfair to all involved and showing that they are selfish and have low morals.

Answer 10

When the basis for the relationship is just sexual sooner or later the magic wears off. If there is nothing else cementing the relationship it is basically over. So before couples involve themselves sexually there ought to be more commonality to the relationship than just lust. In other words they should be not only friends first, but good honest friends with each other first.