if you really really loved the person?
2006-12-11 17:45:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im just wondering what u guys think of this...
2006-12-11 17:47:45 · update #1
Usually in this aspect you have to use your noggin not your heart. If he/she cheated on you, think about it, will he/she do it again? People come and go through your life, if a person is willing to cheat on you my advice is: Don't do it again. Love always comes with certain types of pain, and you don't deserve that type of pain the person is giving you. Heck nobody does, you deserve better.
2006-12-11 18:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by jacjac 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, that is the worst betrayal someone can do to a person that loves them. About a year and a half ago I was dating a girl whom I loved very much. We had dated almost three years and was thinking about marriage. Well you can guess why I left her. She has since tried to get back together with me numerous times. And to some extent I still love her but would never be with her again because I could never trust her anymore. And I have a friend who dated a guy again who had cheated on her and she just always wondered up until we actually caught him with another girl in his front room. Long story short my friend started crying he started blaming her and I lost it and kicked him in the head then walked her home. So I believe it only breeds trouble. So I don't do it. If they felt the same way you did they wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
2006-12-12 02:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once someone has tasted forbidden fruit it is hard to say. He will cheat again. You didn't have what it took to keep him the first time what's different now. If all it takes is piece of action for him to leave you then he might as well as left you for a hole in the ground because that is all a person like that thinks about women. Find a man that will treat you like a person before he treats as lover.
2006-12-12 01:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by FIRE § 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably just for the sex.
You can try to accept them and get over the pain and move forward; but you will most likely find yourself showing resentment and contempt for your betrayal.
It really is a sign of disrespect when a trust bond is thrown away for a screw.
2006-12-12 04:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. He did not change, even though I think he wanted to. I lost self respect and time but gained a new level of understanding into how I work.
I say it is very hard to build trust with a person who was dishonest to the level of a cheater.
Dump her!
2006-12-12 03:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by chuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one. Ive done both. Ive not taken one back. He ended up doing the same thing to his next partner! Ive taken one back and he did the same thing to me again. There is no right or wrong. People are different. It all depends on the relationship. Most important, after you find out, can you trust them again? Did they tell you or did you find out. Soo many questions.
FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS, EVEN IF YOUR WRONG, HOPEFULLY YOU WILL HAVE LEARNED SOMETHING!
THATS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT!
2006-12-12 03:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by justjellybeans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because if the person really, really loved me they wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
2006-12-12 01:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by Manx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how he cheated u, but ya if he has cheated u once, then he can again too, and if u r ready to be cheated again, then u can take him back, but before tht u should check tht is he really wants to come back to ur heart, and if u find anything wrong in tht then u should never go back to him, and also try to find tht after he cheated u, now how u r loving him, well after all it all depends on u, tht wht u wants...... and in love try to forget and forgive before it's gonna be too late....... but only when love is true...
2006-12-12 02:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gaurav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After about a year, most people would be over it and would consider taking the cheater back.
2006-12-12 01:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did once and it was a big mistake. He did it again and gave me crabs. He was an alcoholic and blamed it on being drunk. It's better to be by yourself and be choosy and find the right man than to waste time with losers, cheaters and abusers.
2006-12-12 05:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋