Do you find that people answer the questions they think you asked instead of what you actually asked?

Question

I get so many answers that are full of assumptions about what I meant. Why do you think so many people have such difficulty answering the question as it is stated?

Answer 1

they don't even read the question fully they see one word they don't ,like (God being one) and start on a tirade

Answer 2

Yes, I agree. A lot of people assume stuff about the asker or see a hidden meaning behind the question and answer according to what they imagined to be behind the question rather than just answer the actual question.

I guess some people just get carried away with assumptions and their own imagination. Sometimes it's also hard to know with what attitude the question was asked, because all we see is words on the screen, no face, no tone, no body language or anything else to help us judge right how to take the question, so sometimes it's hard to know whether someone is being serious or not or whether they're being prejudiced, trying to offend or just being genuinely curious etc.

Answer 3

Absolutely. The best way I can answer this is using theorism. Difficulty in using the written word and how one perceives it. Question: I read it, Did I understand it, did I comprehend and did I listen... I believe those are key to understanding where you're at. Unfortunately, behavior and anger takes it toll- there is a lack of compassion and respect, not all are that way, but one can usually tell the age and experience of an individual based on how they write- it's always been that way. Another problem I have is misconstructionism; I say a word and a trigger effect develops in the brain- example: controversy and heated loaded questions that you know are instigated for fuel to get people riled up... Abortion, politics, religion... those three are the holy trinity. I try to stay away from discussing but it has been increasingly more difficult when I get enraged by the fury of the younger generation; they have too much attitude and it smells. I'm 35 years of age, if I acted that way back than, I would have received a spanking, which nowadays is considered debatable. I apologize for this huge answer but had hoped to make some leeway. Another thing I wish to say is that popularity is king here too; I was forced to back down on an article someone made a link to. I wrote constructive criticism and told them that, they didn't care for that, and I received 3 thumbs down. That told me right there, okay- back off, so I deleted my answer. I'll be frank, it sucks, we can be ourselves with all our liberties and freedoms, but then someone comes along and speaks in oxymorons. I thank you for your time in reading this. Many blessings to you for the holidays.

Answer 4

First of all, English is not everyone's first language so other people translate questions in a very literal way.
Second, it takes a certain amount of intuition to answer a question correctly because of the way the questions are phrased. On several occasions, I had to modify my answers a few times before I submit them to make sure my response is what the asker is looking for.

Answer 5

People always assume the worst. Besides that it's hard to determine inflection from an email. IF you want to be understood then make yourself clear. Give us little parenthetical hints, i.e.'s, anything to make it more understandable for us poor misguided answerers.

Answer 6

Might be your fault.
Your questions must be poorly worded and ambiguous.
Possibly
too short
or
too rambly.
Just checked your questions. They tend to be religious and social and controversial.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK MATE.

Answer 7

I agree with the fellow below me. If you want to be understood, make yourself clear, otherwise you leave your question open to all sorts of interpretations.

Answer 8

IT WOULD BE NICE IF THEY WOULD READ THE COMPLETE
SENTENCE BEFORE ANSWERING
YES I UNDERSTAND