i just found out that im pregnant today. not sure how to deal with this. i wont terminate the pregnancy and i wont put it up for adoption. im 18 i have a boyfriend who loves me and is being super supportive. itsjust now im all paranoid about miscarying. i dont want that at all. how do i avoid it? when should i tell my mom and his parents? should we do it seperatly or what does everyone think
2006-12-11 17:40:03 · 12 answers · asked by Molly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your going to be sooo happy when the pregnancy is over and you all have a beautiful baby to love, and care for.... Just be happy, and have faith that it will all work out. Trust me, it gets MUCH better. I was 18 when I had my first baby and scared shitless, but when it was over, I had my beautiful daughter. Good luck!
2006-12-11 17:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to be worried about miscarrying unless you have done so once or more already. Most people wait until after the first trimester since miscarriage rates drop dramatically after that...its great that your bf is super supportive, but you need to decide what you want to do, it doesnt matter how supportive he is because it depends on how you feel on the situation. Do you love him too?? I dont want you to terminate the baby, but if you dont want it then it would be best to put it up for adoption or give it to your parents or bf to take care of, if they will do it....honestly I think that you would regret giving your baby up tho...kids make the world a wonderful place, and I am more paranoid now that I am a mom then I have ever been in my life, so you have plenty to look forward to....I wish you the best of luck, and just be true to yourself
2006-12-12 01:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by gabbi_gurl_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to AVOID a miscarriage. Just take your prenatal vitamins (or 2 flintstones with iron) and definitely folic acid. Don't lift anything extremely heavy. I have had 3 miscarriages, well...2 miscarriages and a blighted ovum. There is nothing that I did that caused it or could have prevented it. I have a healthy baby boy and I am pregnant again, but found out I may lose this one due to another blighted ovum.
I wouldn't tell anyone until I was 3 months or so. Family is different though, I would tell them now, just incase something happened when you are with them. They would need to know.
Good luck and don't stress!
2006-12-12 01:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First congrats your going to be a mummy. You can't avoid miscarry if it is going to happen don't stress about that worry about it if it happens. You and your partner should face both of your parents together that way you are showing you want to be responsible for what has happened. You will find that your parents will not react as bad. You should tell them now they have a right to know as soon as possible, the sooner the better just have you game plan worked out for any questions that they might have about the situation. Good luck i wish you all the best.
2006-12-12 01:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by regie811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when i found out i was pregnant the first time. i have a very supportive boyfriend who is now my husband! and we have another child together now...
Fearing a miscarriage is so normal i always worried right through all my pregnancies, and i think it just the hormonal paranoia that you go through!
i told my mum straight away i was 3 hours away from her and had to do it on the phone and i did it on my own, when it came time for my husband to tell his parents i sat in the car and hid.. Remember that no matter what their reactions are there is a child and once they lay eyes on it they will most likely fall in-love and be very supportive!!
Ideally doing it together and making it known that you are in it together will help i would think.
Good luck and believe me your life isn't over it is just on hold for a little while.
2006-12-12 01:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by elfsbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry yourself about miscarying there is nothing you can do to stop it so instead try to enjoy the fact that you and your partner are bringing a wonderful bundle of joy into the world .I recommend that you both tell your parents together and wait till your 12 week scan before tellin anyone else. I had my first baby at 17 and i wouldnt change her for the world....GOOD LUCK
2006-12-12 05:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by wendy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is of the essence now. So, tomorrow grab your boyfriend and go to the courthouse and get a marriage license. Then grab your folks and his folks and go to the Justice of the Peace and get a marriage certificate. Do this before your child is born and your child will forever appreciate you thinking of him/her before you think of yourself or husband. Your folks and grandparents will appreciate you correcting the "hurry you two are in to get pregnant." Like the sex, don't think about the consequences now, just do it!
2006-12-12 02:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should face your parents together. This should be done as soon as possible. Getting good prenatal care is the key to having the healthiest possible pregnancy and baby,
2006-12-12 01:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats just dont stress just relax i was 19 when i had my first baby and now im about to have my 4th go together to tell both sets of parents it will be ok
2006-12-12 01:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by mumof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it just dont miss your doctors appointments folow his directions , the sonner you tell your parents the better .at least youll know what they think and wont be worried about them finding out another way. good luck
2006-12-12 01:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by hooya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋