I'm sick of being famous . .How will I ever know if someone will be my real friend, not out of fame .?

Question

We have 14 hour days, we work on a tv sitcom, you'd recognize it right away. By the time I leave the studio, everything except In N Out is closed. On our rare day off when I go out to get lunch- JUST LUNCH- people get on their cellphones and there is a crowd around the restaurant in 20 minutes.

People think I'm being rude when I don't talk, but I just don't want to make some stupid mistake and say something that gets in the papers. I dont' have any friends except the people on my set, and one friend from high school before I got famous.

People think I make a lot of money, it's not true- my agent and manager get so much, taxes, and it's expensive to be me anyway.

Thanks, Dalenlucy, I like that idea of going to Subway- there's no way I could eat it for there, but I'll try for to go. What you might not get- I can't dress too down, or all of a sudden I'm in the tabloids for being "down on my luck" or something- which ironically, I feel is true at least friends wise.

Answer 1

At first glance, this question seemed to just beg for a smart *** answer. Then I thought about it. I really feel kinda bad for you. You are a real human being, with morning breath, smelly pits and all the other strange joys of being human. Yet, due to your job, you cannot, say just walk down to BK for a hamburger. Every one you meet wants to use you, to earn money for them, to "be seen with you", or have you for some bizarre fantasy. It must be rough. It would seem to me, that the only true joy you find in life is your work. Just sitting down and BSing with your pals for no reason is a joy we poor and unknown do take for granted. I've never really known anyone famous, though a guy I went to High School with has a return address at some studio in Hollyweird..we were never very close. I'd be more than happy to just exchange emails with you, I don't want an autograph (at 43 years old, it kinda lost it's allure), nor do I want a part in your show, I don't want to "meet" anybody. I just would like the oppurtunity to talk with someone in your line of work...though that sounded like I want to use you, as well. I can only say this..find someone to love that loves you, stay off of drugs, booze, weird sex, and making racial comments in public. Don't be a diva at work, and if nothing else, you'll get the respect of we groundlings. You don't want to end up in the tabloids, fine, you may have noticed that the celebrities we hate the most are usually in the tabloids. You say you don't make as much money as we think, you are right. But you make alot more than most of us. A few of us actually know how much work being in a character is, so some of us do respect your profession. I hope this helps, I meant it from the heart.

Answer 2

YO! you know how to tell a true friend... a true friend is there for the good times and bad... A true friend doesnt want to see damn people taking your picture all the time.. (cuz that ish is annoying! ) they will be into and share the same things you like.. the simple stuff.. you can go over there house and watch the game and cook hot wings or go for hikes or just chill and do nothing at all... but you know what.. sometimes 1 friend is all you really need. And stop crying about 14hr days!! I am on duty 24-7. You know what happens when I mess up at work.. People die! So count your blessings your working.. Alot of people would love to have something as simple as a job.

p.s nothing is ever open when your hungry... i feel your pain

Answer 3

I wish I knew if you were truly in the industry or just someone pretending to be to mess with people. And if you're in the industry, then what your age is. It's difficult to give advise not knowing.

Well, assuming that you are, I realize that fame has it's down sides and can be quite a weight to bear at times. People either tend to forget that you are a person too, or they've never seemed to realize that simple fact in the first place. Your time is seldom your own and privacy to do the most ordinary tasks is almost nonexistent. While you might get a lot of money doing whatever it is that you do, the supply of it isn't endless and it doesn't all just go to you. Also, there are certain ways that you have to spend your money being in the life you have.

Whoever you are, I truly hope you find a way to cope with the lot you have in life at present, the good, bad and in between of it. I know that a person needs people in their lives that will be true to them no matter what and see them as the person they are and not some image. I do hope you find more people like that to have in your life. Take care.

Answer 4

I've seen too many like you thru the years.
I am a once "famous" rock drummer. In the 70's and 80's when I lived in the L.A. area, Burbank and Woodland Hills to be exact, and I hung out with a lot of people who were on the top rated sitcoms and action shows and top rock bands of the time. For the most part we were all just people who wanted to do our jobs and live our lives. The ones who complained about the lack of privacy brought it on themselves. If you go to the trendy places where other "trendy" people are going to be, or are expected to be, you deserve what happens. There are plenty of places with excellent food that aren't "in".
You probably dress to be noticed. We used to laugh at Elvis and Michael Jackson for going out as flashy as they dressed on stage then get pissed when they were noticed. Try going to Subway in old jeans, a flannel shirt and some $20 reeboks, sit with your back to the door and just be cordial to the staff. If you act average, you'll be treated average. But I don't think that's what you want. If you want privacy then don't be flashy and play the "look at me" "don't you know who I am" game.
Try it....it works.

Answer 5

True friends are rare even if you're not famous. Aquiring new friends in your situation would be unimaginably tough. Sometimes in life all a person has is aquaintances, until a defining moment occurs, proving their friendship is for real. What sucks is you can't make those happen. Perhaps your highschool buddy can help as a sounding board with new aquaintances outside of work.
I would think that those people always wanting to buy you stuff are fake. Those wanting you to buy them stuff are mooching fakes. Anyone that just wants to hang out Dutch-style are only limitedly suspect.
Anybody you meet at parties are suspect (and potentially trouble for you in the future). I don't think there's one perfect answer for you. Trust you gut, right now trust your high school bud, Don't trust your agent/accountant or lawyer(especially your accountant). Best of luck with it man.

Answer 6

Hey Joey your scaring me, as I start the beginning of the year on a movie. But I love acting and want to be famous. It sounds like you need to take up a hobby like biking, golf, surfing something where you will meet and interact with other people.
Maybe you need to grasp being popular and famous better. However, I am new in LA and it is a bit lonely. So I do understand as well. Good luck.

Answer 7

Because human beings love to talk about other human beings. With celebrities, you don't have to worry about pissing them off, because they don't know you. If you talk about a coworker who might be pregnant or a friend who is probably anorexic, they can find out and you can end up screwing yourself over. Celebrities you can talk all you want about, truth or not.

Answer 8

It's kind of ironic how everyone craves fame, and once you get it, you don't want it anymore.
i guess all you can do is be optimistic and friendly, and hope that there are some decent people out there who recognize that fame isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Answer 9

when people don't care about who you are and what you have. they treat you like they would treat their own real friends and family. it's also the people who will be there for you through thick and thin. those are the real friends you would want to keep.

Answer 10

you can always do the michael jackson thing and wear a mask etc.

kidding good luck with that, i wouldnt be famous for quids.