I married my Husband after 9 years love affair. He was my first love. Any way we had so much of problems after the marriage. I met a man whom I feel in love from the first date. I knew he was married and he knew me too. We loved each other very much. Any way he promised to marry me. But life change a lot. My husband has filled a divorce case againist me. He is living with another women. My lover is still with her wife and the kid. I didn't want to take him from her. But I loved him and did what ever he asked me. His wife got to know this and did lot of things to me. In fact I lost my job too. My lover said he only loves me but because of his daughter he cannot leave his wife and I also agree. But today I got to know he has two daughters by his wife. Our affair was 4 years. He got the baby last month. But he didn't tell me. WHen I asked he said it is non of my business. So tell me I gave all what he wants. I gave up everything for his love. Today he betrayed my true love.
2006-12-11 17:06:31 · 22 answers · asked by Shama R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very simple here....don't go after married men! If a guy is married, it means he is not available to you! You need to take the time to figure out what you want out of life and a relationship and realize the importance of honesty and integrity. You cheated and he cheated, so you were both playing games. Go to counseling and find out why.
2006-12-11 17:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So now have you learnt a lesson here? You have now officially broken up one relationship (yours) and caused heartache in another one (his). This man has used you for 4 years, and I hope you realise this! No man who uses the excuse "I can't leave my wife because of the children" EVER intends to leave his wife. Why should he? He has the best of both worlds. He has a wife and family, and a mistress to boost his silly ego as well. Move on. Dump this guy. He does NOT love you, only the IDEA of you. You will destroy this woman's family if you carry on like this, including his children's future. And obviously he is still sleeping with her, therefore telling her he loves her! Otherwise they would not have had another child. You are under the delusion that this can last. Where will you be when you are 50 and still the other woman? Who will take care of you then? Certainly not HIM! He has far more important commitments to take care of - his wife and children. It is not fair of you (or him) to put this woman through the heartache that you eventually will. Get a little back bone and moral fibre and move on. Learn from this and hope you are never the wife, watching your husband having an affair with someone like you! (The other woman)
2006-12-11 19:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two things you'll find with married men when they have an affair.
1. They tell the new woman anything she wants to hear, because they just want the thrill and the physical action.
2. They are obviously not to be trusted and don't mind hurting people.
If you want someone genuine, perhaps a cheating, untrustworthy, unfaithful married man isn't the best person?
Move on and learn the lesson.
2006-12-11 17:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cracker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably had no intention of leaving his wife in the first place. Men are different to women. He might say he loves you, and mean it, but it doesnt mean he wants to leave his wife and kids, who he also loves. He just wanted sex with you, and for you to love him, but he didnt want to leave his wife.
You have lost out all round. Lost your husband and your lover. Next relationship you get into make sure the guy is free and dont cheat on him. What goes around comes around.
2006-12-11 19:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear your best clothes, put on nice make-up - look your very sexiest. Then go and tell his wife that her husband is a dirty mongrel, split his marriage up and go out find someone else while you're looking good. A single guy this time. With his own place. And car. And boat (for holidays).
Either that or continue to get used and he gets the best of both worlds. Lucky man.
2006-12-11 18:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you put yourself in such a situation. But to me it's a little absurd after all he is married to her. He betrayed his wife what made you think he wouldn't do the same thing to you?
He has been using you. You can not blame him for what you gave up by CHOICE. They were YOUR choices. You weren't married, he didn't make any vows to you. You violated your vows to your husband and he to his wife so how could you possibly expect him to stay faithful to you?
Learn from the lesson you have been taught and move on.
2006-12-11 17:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My frame of thinking is the same way!! I say he needs to help you get over this; what if he stepped it up on being a husband and shows you that he’s committed to only you!!! Then perhaps those ugly thoughts would go away. When is the last time he sent you flowers or did something extra special for you when you never expected it? Why did he enter in that “emotional” affair anyhow? What was his excuse? When did he have the time to do that?
2016-05-23 07:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you.Now you know.How his wife must have felt?When she found out about the two of you.So I do not know.Why you act so surprised that he betrayed you?When your 4 year relationship with your lover was based on nothing more then lies and deception.The man kept you hidden in the shadows of his marriage for a reason.He never wanted his wife to ever find out about you because he never had any intentions of ever leaving his wife/marrying you in the first place.You betrayed yourself.The minute you choose to cross the line with him.I do not blame his wife for being angry with you.You brought it on yourself.You have no one to blame except yourself.For the choices you choose to make.Oh yes you do want to take him from his wife.You didn't stand there for 4 years/to let him use you/lie to you/betray you for nothing.You may have loved him.The sad brutal truth is he did not/does not love you.You damn well know it.It makes you angry at him.So I will tell you.Now you know.How his wife felt?When she found out about the two of you.I bet he got her pregnant.When he was convincing her that she is the only one he loves/convincing her that you meant nothing to him!!His marriage is none of your business.You never should have went there in the first place.You are a grown adult/capable of saying no.You betrayed yourself with the choices.You choose to make.Move on in your life.
2006-12-11 19:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by noga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this man wanted to leave his wife he would, sorry but he has just been using you.
You may have lost your job and husband but dont lose your self respect. Accept what has happened and take steps to move on. This may be the new start you need to move on with your life.
2006-12-11 17:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by benn26k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds like you got what you deserved.
Messing around with married men... Did you not give any thought to the hurt you might cause to his wife if she had found out about you ?
Cheating cheats cheats cheating cheats. Full circle.
2006-12-11 17:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Narky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋