what can i do to get my girlfriend to believe me when i say im not cheating or to prove to her that i always tell her the truth because i have tried many things but she still never believes me
2006-12-11 16:58:10 · 9 answers · asked by ipod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have cheated in my past relationships but i have never cheated on her and i spend most of my time with her and i am in love with her and some how i cannot see myself talking to another women
2006-12-11 17:18:47 · update #1
If she keep accusing you, you need to end this relationship...Trust is a big part of being together...She has issues, she needs to work on....
2006-12-11 17:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have found some women will accuse men of lying especially when they are telling the truth. I would say that your girlfriend has some trust issues that took place before you. To live in an environment where you are not trusted is killing. You need to find out what she is harboring and get her some help so that she can unconditionally love you. Do you feel like you are walking on egg-shells all the time?
2006-12-11 17:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are powerless over another persons thoughts.
If she is determined not to trust you or is so insecure that she won't believe you, she has needs no angel can meet.
If you have never cheated on her and have always been truthful with her and still choose to be with her, sit her down and have one final talk about this subject.
Tell her that you have never cheated and that her insecurity and jealousy are very unbecoming and will undermine the relationship. Tell her you will no longer reassure her or answer her questions about your fidelity. Then, stick to your guns.
If you have cheated in the past, then you have broken a trust that is often irreparable.
2006-12-11 17:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This's my own experience, maybe it helps ?
Check back if you have ever lied anything to her, even small things ... A guy and I were in a relationship that was very enjoyable at the begining, then he lied to me on different things, and some of them were really little things, that were really uneccessary to lie, he did because he didn't know me well at the moment, and he was forced to lie in another "situation" before he met me ... But since then it's been hard for me to believe in all of his words. And we started to missunderstand each other from time to time, and ruin our beautiful relationship ...
Each time he told me something, I just could not know how many percent of it could be true, which words were true, which were not ... He called me with sweet names for lovers, but I doubted all the time if there was true feeling about me in him or they were just other liars for benefits. Well, sometimes I felt sorry when I found out I had doubted on something he didn't lie, but it was not me who started at first place ... I was lied from guys before, so how could I not think all guys were the same ? My heart was in doubt most of the time until the day I felt I was tired of trying to guess which words of him were true, which were not ... Since then I could say I can believe him like a friend, but whenever it touches sentiment issuess, I keep myself away from believing him for not getting hurt ... So thing remained messy and pitiful ... I just wanted a simple honest guy to love me and let me love back ...
Everybody who expects a good relatonship should understand that there have been enough bad things and liars in this world, so who needs them ? Then put yourself in the WANTED list, not the UNWANTED one.
About your situation, if you have ever lied to her even just little and "uneccessary" things, she probably had known some of them so she decided that she could not believe you anymore. So if you love her and want her in your life sit her down in a date in which you bring her some precious flowers (roses), tell her about all what you had lied to her, explain why if possible, appology, then promisss her you know now you was "silly" and won't never lie to her again, and should you do for real, with patient of gaining back her trust.
2006-12-11 18:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Juliet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person accuses me of cheating continuously and I haven't done one thing, one single thing to make them think that I have and have no history of cheating, I start to think that maybe they are the one that is cheating and have a guilty conscience.
2006-12-11 17:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, no matter what you do you cannot convince someone of something they do not want to be convinced of. If she really doesn't trust you and you have not given her any reason to mistrust you you have to decide whether her reactions are worth dealing with in the long run.
2006-12-11 17:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rabble Rouser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has trust issues. Maybe you should ask her if her past boyfriends have cheated on her at all.
2006-12-11 16:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by steffo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with her more than anyone else ,be honest ,dont flirt or make her jealous in time she will heal doing what I said.
2006-12-11 17:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ACTIONS....speak louder then words!
2006-12-11 17:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by lanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋