had a relationship for 3yrs which was full of abuse, insults and fights.i loved my boyfriend so much and thus i always believed that one day he will change. lived together but most of the time he was never there instead he spent time with the ex and her friends. always talked to them about me even when im there and laugh and this annoyed me. asking him he always said it was alcohol and this could happen everytime we went to parties etc. at times i could get him snogging her, holding her ****.he also had another girl he was seeing but i realised maybe b4 things went far and he admitted on cheating. hes also told many pple that hes been with me for convinience and lastly he said on ma face. now we r not together cos i happened to fall for his friend cos of frustractions tho nothing sexual happened. i told him the truth and obviously he cant handle it. i still love him thou after all these. what do u think i should do?
2006-12-11 16:56:59 · 16 answers · asked by kago 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, I think you need to leave him, cut off all ties with him and his friends and move on with your life. Second, I think you need to seek counselling before entering a relationship like this again. Just because you think you love someone doesn't mean that they are a good person or that they are going to change. Stand up for yourself and who you are. You shouldn't have to be treated this way even if you do love him, it's clear he doesn't love you or even think much of you except that you might be a pretty doormat.
2006-12-11 17:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on from this person. Staying with people who treat you like S**t will only knock your confidence.
Relationships should be happy, full of romance, love, little things which others can not give you. This bloke is not giving you anything except hurt.
You may well love him, but if it is not returned they why continue? Find someone who will love you and treat you right, until that comes enjoy life and do things that make you happy.
I have been in a sort of same relationship and although hard once you break free and have had time to adjust, life is so much better. If you let people treat you like this they will.
If you ask anyone about your relationship that you have told us, I can bet everyone will ask why you are still with him? Can everybody be wrong? Think with your head for a change and not your heart.
Good Luck
2006-12-11 17:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in the same boat four 9 years and i have 3 kids my wife yes my wife is like your partner , some people have said to you all ready get a way from him that is not as easy as it seems only you no the real person and im shore he has some good points as my wife has but some people don't see the good bits, ask yourself if you want to be with this person for the rest of your life if not leave while you can i should have left years ago but i stayed for my kids she cheats she lies and runs up bills . i just beat here at here own game i went on dating sites and had a lot of interest from other lady's and now she is worried and jealous so try and play the game on him and good luck. all men are not pigs just most off us .
2006-12-11 17:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by cyberhighbenator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!....I'm sorry of what happened but I'm surprised you still love such a abusive and cold guy...first of all u don't really need to deserve that..u should've dumped him instead..but try to take things slow and just wait around and see how he does...if he doesn't change in 1 month..u have to look for someone new cause i believe u deserve a respectful and devoting man who will really love u till the end..i hope this has helped u..good luck and take care
2006-12-11 17:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by ««NÃ?£»» 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to ask yourself if "you" respect "you"?doesn't sound like it to me .If not then continue on humiliating yourself. I hope you don't have any children because they will pick up this behavior from you along with your low self asteem and mimic it.If your thinking of having children,FORGET IT! Not to be mean but if you choose to be treated this way then don't ask for sympathy from anyone else unless you are willing to change and don't bring anyone else into your disfunctional relationship.This man your with only cares about himself and sounds to me like a caveman.He needs counceling as well as yourself,you need to take back your life,independance and self-gratitude to have a happy life.I can only bet that youv'e lost friends and family over this,so you need to choose what kind of life you want and is he really worth giving up the normal life you could have without him??By the way,alchohol is a good excuse but there is a reason why he drinks in excess,not your problem to solve!If you really want to be with this man send him to AA first,if he is not willing to go then there is your answer stated before,"he only cares about himself".you think about that and email me if you like.
Greg
2006-12-11 18:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by greg m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
¤ relationship status? - In relationship ¤ Longest relationship? - 3 years, Teenage love. he's married now, we are good acquaintances ¤ Ever been cheated on? - so a ways as i comprehend, no longer. ¤ have you ever cheated? - No and that i under no circumstances will.
2016-10-05 05:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you trully love disrespect, abuse, and cheating, because thats what you're saying you love from this guy. You deserver better. Don't let this guy block a real man that is out there for you.
2006-12-11 17:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by sgame00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move. Get away from all these scum bag low life types.
Easy.
Don't play the victim here. Move on. Get some self respect, or I'll come and kick your sorry ar5e.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 17:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
r u his mother or girlfriend?!! wake up stop giving excuses 4 him if he doesn't respect u now what do u expect later....he knows u will be there what ever he do to u....love someone who deserve u , that if u don't like being abused over and over again.
2006-12-11 17:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave dat heck' and find another one.
Probbably h'll come back to u after some times coz guys are like that.
2006-12-11 17:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋