why do you have to be so shallow minded about abortion?

Question

i am so upset by the responses to another girls question asking about how much an abortion cost because she was 8 weeks and stated she couldn't have another child. to all those people that said just have the baby and give it up for adoption,and for the male who said think of the labour pain as your punishment for having sex, it's not the labour mate that's the problemDO YOU KNOW HOW HARD IT IS TO BE PREGNANT OBVIOUSLY NOT!!!!!!!! all i can say is i am facing the a similar situation i've had two kids 17 months apart meanwhile put on 55 kilos in the process have had post natal depression both times and spent hours in the hospital and now my youngest is 5 moths old and because i was sick while taking the pill and not realising it would effect the contraception I AM PREGNANT, now i was NOT STUPID OR WRECKLESS i was being absolutley as careful as i could !!so shallow minded people against & making it hard for women to chose to have an abortion you should all get off your high horse!

in response to some of your answers, i cant get my tubes tied until i've been to through a process of 12 councilling sessions as i am only 22 and now one will do it unless i have been through this process and also i am a high risk patient because i am obese and have been told i need too lose at least 25 kilo's before the will operate, so it's not as easy as just getting my tubes tied, my husband has booked in for a vasectomy the eariest we could get it done is jan 22 07again we have been going through a councilling process for this as well, and who in this world in any loving relationship is not going to have sex unless they are prudes!i am not saying abortion should be used as a form of contraception that's totally irresponsable, but it is a legal option that people should be councilled through and taken very seriously, it's not 4 everyone and i can see that but please don't thow stones one day u may have a similar circumstance and like myself go from being against abortion to for it.

Answer 1

I agree. You have the right to have an abortion just like i am entitled to that right.

I swear i would love to see those people that are so dead set against abortion to have to come face to face with it and them themselves have to choose if:

1.They just did not want or couldn't handle another baby
2.If they were raped
3.If their life were in danger and they would die if they carried on with the pregnancy
4.If there were something horribly wrong with the fetus and it would just be born to suffer in life

If any of the above happened to me i would have an abortion.
Listen if you know you cannot take on another baby then have an abortion. Don't worry what all these people say. It is YOUR body. I am sorry you are having to go through this but if you are done with having kids get your tubes tied.

There is no way i would be pregnant for 9 months and go through all the pain of having a baby just to give it away.

If you are no more than 8 weeks along you can get the abortion pill.
Go to http://www.abortion.com to find a clinic near you

People will look down on me for providing you with that info but it is your decision.
Good luck and Take care

Answer 2

This is not a question.

People are not shallow minded. Abortion should not be taken lightly. Many people do not know other options besides abortion.

I've been pregnant before. I know how hard it is to be pregnant. At the same time I wouldn't abort a child just because it wasn't the right time for me. I think it's important to think about all the options not just abortion. It's not the only way out.

If you did not want another child, why were you having sex? Why weren't you abstinent? If you are married, why didn't you use three or even four forms of birth control?

Pregnancy can be avoided with all the methods out there. It's just a matter of making sure it doesn't happen. Right now, I do not plan on becoming pregnant. What do I do? I'm on the pill, using spermicide, and my husband wears condoms. Is it really that hard to do? No.

I'm all for choices but I really wish people would choose life.

Answer 3

I completely agree with you that being pregnant sounds hard. But I think that using abortion as a form of birth control is wrong. It's so clear that all forms of birth control (pills, condoms, whatever) still leave a small chance of getting pregnant. When you choose to have sexual relations, you choose to accept that consequence. So I believe that a woman certainly does have freedom of choice, but she exercises that choice when she chooses to have sex. After that she should accept the consequences. And don't you think that the baby has the right to have two good parents if possible? That's why I think carrying the baby and giving it up for adoption is often the best choice in these matters.

By the way, I'm sorry that you've been having a hard time with your pregnancy, and I hope that everything goes well for you and your baby's health.

Answer 4

Well, I believe in God and I tend to think that these horrific things are part of some big plan that I don't see... but I fully admit that that might just be a human coping mechanism. The question you linked to has been deleted, so I can't comment on that, but I agree that there are certainly some logical fallacies around here - especially in the "Creation" department. I know it's hard, but try not to bash your head against the wall when you read that crap. Cheers!

Answer 5

abortion is a terrible thing to do. this is my opinion. it's a human life that is being sucked out of your body. there are so many couples out there that are trying so hard to have children and can't get pregnant and then there are these women that make the choice to kill the babies they are carrying, instead of giving them away to have a wonderful life. I know how hard it is to have children. I gave birth to two beautiful girls. My last pregnancy I was on bed rest and almost lost my baby, I went through twenty hours of labor to almost bleed to death at the end. I would do it over again if I had to. I think it's a foolish thing for someone to think it's okay to kill an unborn baby, undeveloped or not. It's murder in my eye. I could never do it. This is my opinion. Obviously it's the woman's choice in the end as to what she will do, but we are all entitled to have our opinions and we are all entitled to share them with others if they put themselves in the position to receive them. Don't be to eager to get mad at others with different views as your own. So, my advice to you is to not put yourself in the position to get opinions placed upon you. This site is very opinion oriented and if you don't want to read other persons views don't view this site. Have a great night.

Answer 6

I just don't understand why people want to kill the baby instead of the less selfish option of giving it up for adoption. Here are the options, murder a baby or give it up. I don't get it. I'm not anti-abortion. I would never have one, i'd like to go to Heaven. But if people do have them it's not me that will be facing God and the child in Heaven. It's them.

Answer 7

Would you kill either of your children now??

What if you had aborted them?

If you don't want this child, some good family would.

Abortion is Murder and a Sin. It's written in the Bible.

We are not 'shallow minded'. We just know what God says is the Truth and the best for all concerned. Sure you need support and I can understand you feel very overwhelmed.

Remember the couple that had 5-7 children at one time.........the McCauleys. She didn't abort Any of them. Many have had twins, triplets and quads. Again, if you can't handle this, ask for help and guidence but above all else, don't take the life of a baby. There are many people who will adopt or maybe relatives can help.

Once you get over depression and feel better, it will help some. Still I know you are under a lot of pressure and fatigue with a baby thats young. Your hormones may also be off. Your husband should help you all he can.

Answer 8

I understand being overwhelmed by an unplanned pregnancy. BUT after you have held your sweet babies in your arms how could any one even contemplate aborting a child after holding YOUR babies in your arms?

You need to ask your family to help you Hun!! Are your parents close by or your husband’s parents close by? Can you make arrangement with a friend? You watch her kids for a day and then she can watch your kids for a day. Can you talk to your Doctor and start anti depressants now (I don’t know how they affect the baby)

I could not imagine aborting my baby……….. I have 2 kids I do not want to get pregnant again because my post partum last for a year and it is severe. I still could not abort if I were to get pregnant again. I’m sorry but I think abortion is wrong. Things happen for a reason. I know how hard it is!! ((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))) Hang in there!!!!!!!

Answer 9

when i got pregnant i almost had an abortion. i made two appointments and didnt keep either one of them. i had my own reasons to want an abortion. i made a mistake getting pregnant, i was a drug addict, i lived with my parents, the babys daddy was a drug addict too, just didnt seem right to bring a child into the kind of life i was living, but then i thought what a gift to be given. a gift that i could use to straighten up my life and get my self together. i didnt think i could kick the drugs, get a job, and change, but by the grace of god i did. i got a job, my bf got a job, we stopped using drugs, got our own place and i have never been happier in my life, and cant wait for our little girl to be born. SHE SAVED MY LIFE. i never thought i would be living the life i live now and it feels soooo good. i was always pro choice, and still am to an extent. i know now that abortion is not the right choice for me, but who am i to tell someone what to do with their bodies????? im not god and im not one to judge. i do know that one reason i did think about abortion was because i was scared to death to think about having a baby, i thought i wouldnt be able to handle it, but now i know why i was given a child, and it was to save me.

Answer 10

Be prepared for a WHOLE bunch of rude answers.

But, when you have an abortion, you know that there are people who feel strongly about it. You can't change peoples opinions, no matter how hard you try. You'll never turn a pro-life person into a pro-choice person or vice versa, so getting upset about it doesn't matter.

As for being rude, you're totally right. No matter what you think of someones decisions, you should still have some TACT. Something that many people here lack, but it is what it is. You can't change them either. They are ignorant or cruel, or bored.

Just ignore rude statements, and know that everyone has different opinions.