From all the gay guys and lesbians I've met in my life, it seems that most ( most; not all ) gay guys are fun and rather loveable, but most ( most; not all ) lesbians look like they would kill you if you dare to even look at them. Why, I wonder?
2006-12-11 16:37:21 · 16 answers · asked by B 3 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it's all how you percieve them... they're all the same to me except that they perfer the same gender...
2006-12-11 18:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by michael_coloma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being a bit stereotypical, but I will still answer. Men and women are different; women are initially attracted to others based on an emotional aspect and men are initially attracted to others based on a physical aspect. When one is sexually attracted to the same sex, these differences are amplified. A gay guy will be more willing to share an emotion because it has nothing to do with a sexual attraction, while a lesbian may feel that it is something that she does not want to share with you. Some gay guys and some lesbians are friendly and may seem to be lovable in your interpretation, and some gay guys and some lesbians are more reserved with their feelings. Although some lesbians may look like they would kill you if you dare to even look at them, the same could be said for gay guys (or straight guys or straight girls). As long as you are kind and non-judgmental, I do not think that anyone would treat you any differently.
2006-12-12 00:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bit stereotypical to say something like that. Many of the gay guys I've met are actually quite bitchy and mean, and not lovable at all, but at the same time many of them are. And many lesbians are lovable and sweet (I'm a lovable person, aren't I?), but yes, some are masters of the death-glare.
But I can also argue exactly the same about straight men and women. Some are sweet, some are not, but it's not necessarily about sexuality. I'm open and generally nice to everyone, but many people aren't like that. Some people, and this includes many lesbians, feel the need to protect themselves from others who might judge them.
And with lesbians, especially when it comes to interacting with guys, feel that they need to put the guy off as much as possible, because we fear that they will jump on the stereotype bandwagon that says "she's with women 'cause she can't get a man, I wonder if I can convince her to have a threesome with me and her girlfriend", which gets really annoying when you have to live with it every day.
2006-12-12 00:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Saeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our patriarchal, straight-man-based culture, cutesy gay men are considered acceptable because they're no threat to the potency of straight men. So, the cutesy ones get a lot of press, so to speak. Since the cute gay guy is such a popular stereotype, it might be an attractive to both a lot of women (i.e., "faghags") and to a lot of gay men looking for a template for their gay lives.
Lesbians, on the other hand, are only non-threatening to our patriarchy when their lesbianism takes the form of antics for the pleasure of straight men. Strong lesbian stereotypes are perhaps more attractive to developing lesbians because they, as women, probably have a better awareness of the patriarchal nature of this here culture. So, maybe they're just angrier? I know plenty of lesbians and bi women who aren't scary at all.
Then again, maybe you've just met a lot of cutesy gay guys and mean lesbians. You should watch Queer and Folk and get into Brian Kinney. Non-cutesy gay guy.
2006-12-12 01:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this because I like lots of lesbians...but a lot of lesbians don't seem to really open up to men until they find out that the men are gay.
2006-12-12 00:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've met some very lovable lesbians. I think it is just the crowd you have hung out with or the lesbians you have met. Many are very nice.
Maybe it is because we have met so many guys that THEY would kill us if we dared look at them.
2006-12-12 00:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by joannaserah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um that is really crazy. I am a lesbian and I am cool, calm, and very fun to be around. Guys and girls like chilling with me. I guess gay guys are more flamboyant. Thats the only reason I can think of
2006-12-12 04:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by angelajock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, harsh. You just need to meet more lesbians. I've known a lot of straight guys who were jerks, but that doesn't mean all straight guys are jerks.
Most of my favorite people in the world are lesbians.
2006-12-13 19:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by That One Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've met plenty of lesbians that are loving and sweet. I've also met gay guys that can be quite rude. It just depends on the person, not their sexuality.
2006-12-12 00:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by Manx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are homosexual people who do not take on the features of the gender they are effectively replacing, and those who do.
When homosexual men do so, they become more feminine, which you seem to find "more lovable". When homosexual women do so, they become more masculine, which you seem to find "less lovable".
It all depends on what you are attracted to.
I have several 'butch' Lesbian friends to whom I would turn if I were physically attacked far sooner than many of my 'butch' hetero male friends......but, that also might be because I'm bi and I can never tell when the hetero male is going to feel targeted by my sexual preference.....
2006-12-12 00:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by raxivar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually! I've seen a lot of gay men who ARE NOT very lovable. It's half and half it depends upon the person really to tell you the truth.
2006-12-12 02:56:16 · answer #11 · answered by jacjac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋