My best friend/cousin refuses to eat. I'm soooo... scared for her!?

Question

My 14 year old cousin used to cut herself and now won't eat anything. She says she wants attention. I've tried to talk to her, but everytime I bring up the subject she blows up at me! I am so scared for her. Today she got so mad at me, I started crying. What should I do? Telling her parents won't help any. They don't care. :(

Answer 1

Tell YOUR parents or someone who DOES care. A teacher, family member, or any other adult. Even a teacher is better than nobody. She is angry with you because she is afraid that you will stop her. She needs help. Last resort, if all else fails, call the hospital and talk to a nurse. They might be able to steer you in the right direction if nobody is willing to do anything about it. They might have to involve social services if her parents won't help her. Trust me, she needs some help. I hope that helps! Remember that you are trying to help her and that no matter what happens, it is HER doing NOT yours. You are trying sweetie. You both are in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 2

That's so sad. The worst part is that the parents don't care. I had parents like that too. I found though, someone who did, my big sister. I love her so much it is unreal what she has done for me. She was my mother. Tell your cousin that the people she is seeking attention from will pay when she is grown and wants nothing to do with them. My parents now try and get my attention. POOF, I say. POOF. I could care less how much it hurts them not to see me. Tell her that the future is her revenge. The present isn't working for her. Tell her that YOU love her. I would really love you to print this out and let her read it because I think she may identify with my situation. If she is making you cry maybe it's best to let her deal with things on her own. If she loves you she'll be forced to recognize that she's lost her main support when you cut ties. That's a last resort though. I'm passing you both a big, squashy hug from Debra in Oklahoma.

Answer 3

Call 911 anonamously & make a "mental hygene arrest". Its not as bad as it seems.All it means is that they will go and pick her up for an evaluation & release her that same day.Her parents will then take this matter seriously.She WILL get the help she needs as soon as you make this call.They will give her counciling that she so desperately needs to get to the bottom of what is troubling her inside.It may just be a chemical imbalance that medicine can help.As soon as she gets this help,,the sooner she will get better.It will not go away on its own.She is screaming out for help. You can also tell a school councilor or child protective services. I know it may sound harsh but it really isnt.They are there to help,,they care.If you dont do this ,,something seriously bad will happen.Its already bad.Help her please.Good luck.

Answer 4

Don't they have a hotline for that? Throw a party for her so she feels like she's getting attention; try to get her to go to a psychiatrist. Every time she gets angry with you, breathe and remind yourself that this is your choice; you wouldn't be doing this if you didn't care so much. Tell her you and a bunch of people love her and wouldn't be able to live without her.

Answer 5

Tell someone else. Tell her teachers, neighbors, guidance counselors. Yell it from the rooftops and do not stop until you get someone to listen and who will help her.

Answer 6

Tell your parents. Now.

Answer 7

omg thats a hard situation. you may want to get some of her most favorite toppings or dishes and make them smell all over her room and say its sooo yummy and stuff. i hope that helps. you may want to try it.

Answer 8

try telling your parents, a school counselor :o(