I was molested a a child...3 times. Not by the same person. Since the age of 9 I began watching explict movies...and having weird thoughts! I hated it. But I couldnt help it...Now that I am 20 and have a baby I keep on about S-E-X...I feel like a loser! whats wrong with me...why couldnt i have a regular child hood?
2006-12-11 16:22:37 · 9 answers · asked by Licha 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I was abused many times by a relative, while my parents looked on. It was by tickling, and it drove me crazy, but it made my uncle laugh. They felt sorry for him because he couldn't have children. This was back when it wasn't generally recognized or accepted that children had feelings ... they regret it now. But for many decades it robbed me of any feeling sense of self-worth. I suspect you are in that same boat, and fell like you have no oar or rudder to steer. But there is guidance & motivation --exactly what I & so many others have needed & taken hold of. To get started, I suggest the following articles for you to read over carefully :
What Is Your Life Worth? :
- Life--Precious or Cheap?
> How Precious YOUR Life IS!
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/2/1/article_02.htm
Hope--Where Can You Find It? :
- Does Hope Really Make a Difference?
- Why Do We Need Hope?
> You Can Fight Pessimism
> Where You CAN Find REAL Hope!
http://watchtower.org/e/20040422/article_01.htm
The Bible's Viewpoint ...
Will God Overlook Our Weaknesses?
- Moses and David
> The Fight to Throw Off Sin
> God Expects Us to Fight Our Weaknesses
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2002/11/8/article_01.htm
PORNOGRAPHY---Harmless or Harmful? :
- Opposing Viewpoints
- Why Is It So Widespread?
> The Harm Pornography Causes
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20030722/article_01.htm
INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY---What Harm Can It Do? :
- Pornography Goes On-Line
- Is It Really So Harmful?
> Protect Yourself and Those You Love
> Protect Children From Pornography
- More Than Idle Chatter
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/6/8/article_01.htm
The Problems of Children ... :
- An Ongoing Search for Solutions
- Children Deserve to be Wanted and Loved
- The Solution at Last!
- Help for Young People
- The UN Declaration of the Rights of the Child
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_01.htm
How Can You Protect Your Children?
- What Future Do You Want for Your Children?
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1998/7/15/article_01.htm
What Inheritance Do You Owe Your Children?
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2004/9/1/article_01.htm
An Inheritance You Can Count On ...
“The Meek Shall Inherit the Earth”---HOW?
- God's Eternal Purpose for the Earth
- A God Who Has Not Changed
- How to Share in the Promised Inheritance
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20041001/article_02.htm
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2006-12-11 16:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
You have to decide how and what you want to be and then work to become that person. It is hard and you will back slide from time to time along the way. You have to remember in the end how you are is your chose and calling your self a looser only makes you feel like one. So stop tearing your self down. What happened to you as a child is beyond your control but your life is not. Time to start making some changes, start by not allowing your self to be a victim to your own low self esteem.
2006-12-12 00:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Beast 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, consider that it isn't your fault and it is in the past. You need to get by it and move on. Psychologists can help with therapy and support.
Consider also that at your age, sex is a normal preoccupation...some are preoccupied must later in life. Learn to enjoy your sexuality instead of guilt about it. It is a normal part of you.
2006-12-12 00:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your childhood. That is why we have parents...they are supposed to protect us from such things. Now, put your past behind you and focus on protecting that baby from the same bad things you encountered. You are not a loser. Show your baby that you are wonderful. Priorities.
2006-12-12 00:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
How long do you want to define yourself as a victim?
When you want to take back your life, seek counseling or find god or whatever you need to do and you'll understand that you are more than your experiences.
You were fearfully, beautifully made, against all odds. Be proud of that.
Sweet Dreams
2006-12-12 00:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by rynay 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
you've already done something amazing, you haven't given up. i wouldn't be able to live through all of this. you should still get counseling or see a psychologist. as for the childhood thing, you're strong, and you lived through it. and now you're using your strength again. to show the world, and everyone, you're gonna keep going, you're not gonna give up now. remember, you're NOT a loser.
2006-12-12 00:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by polaris grl 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you.There is just something wrong with the people who molested you. People who would molest children should be locked up and never be with children.
2006-12-12 00:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is why sex abuse victims need counseling, to help them deal with the issues related to their abuse!
Don't worry, it's not that uncommon and always remember that the absue is NOT YOUR FAULT and neither are these issues. You just need to work through them... especially for the sake of yoru child!
Please see a counselor. I worked in the child protective services field and found that women who never worked through the issues of their own exploitation were more likely to let their own children be exploited. It's like they were "colorblind" when it came to safety issues and they'd entrust their kids to the wrong people thus putting the kids at risk.
2006-12-12 00:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 8⤋
that happened to me,just live with it.Don't tell anyone unless you know they can help
2006-12-12 00:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋