My bfr. is not right for me, I want to leave, but I am attending school here and it makes it difficult to leave. I have one more yr. to go. To rent alone is not an option since it's very expensive here, so I the only choice I have to move back with my parents that have it's own adv/disadv. I can attend a school where my parents are and get better degree, but i'll lose a yr, though it's cheaper there and I can keep all of my savings.
The problem is it's hard for me to make important decisions because of fear of failure/waisted time
P.S. I am 27, have 6yr old. not even divorced even though I separated with my ex 3 yrs. ago.
My bfr. is 46, has three children, and I don't understand why he doesn't want to marry me.
2006-12-11 16:08:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can you expect this guy to marry you if you are still married? Put your child first, get yourself back home, finish school, get a career, get a divorce and start over once you've got your life in order then you can meet someone new.
2006-12-11 16:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by benjiandremy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend may not want to marry you because he's most likely divorced. Some people don't want to remarry because it didn't work for them the first time. Anyway, you say that your BF is not right for you. In that case, the answer is to go back with your parents. Yes, there are pros and cons of doing this.....but the pros win. You can get a BETTER degree, it's CHEAPER, and you can keep ALL of your SAVINGS. Also...your parents will be there to support you and help you out if you have a need. I understand your FEAR OF FAILURE/WASTED TIME. But think of it this way: One year from now, you are going to be 28 years old. No matter what you do with your time, you are still going to be 28 years old in a year. You might as well get your better degree and keep your savings, and have a good 28th year. Don't worry about "losing a year". You are still young - only 27. It will pay off in the long run. Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-12 00:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by newmum06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide. If you're ready to end a relationship, consider how you can break up without conflict.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Acknowledge that the relationship is really over. Come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship.
•STEP 2: Don't delay the inevitable. Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action.
•STEP 3: Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.
•STEP 4: Select a private place to meet with your partner to end the relationship.
•STEP 5: Find or schedule an appropriate time. Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational. Don't announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger.
•STEP 6: Show your resolve by being firm, decisive and honest. Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Be tactful, not brutal.
•STEP 7: Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.
•STEP 8: Give your partner the closure that he needs to accept the breakup; answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends.
•STEP 9: Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways.
Tips & Warnings
•Let go of old grievances during a breakup. The end of a relationship isn't the appropriate time to bring up old grudges.
•If your partner does not agree to the breakup, don't allow him to manipulate you into staying in the relationship.
All the best.
2006-12-12 00:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still married. Why would a guy go out with a married woman? I just wonder who was using who? If you were single and he was your boyfriend, then it could lead to marriage. If you are still married, then it is a fun time with no commitment. You still haven't let go of you ex, sorry, estranged husband. How does he know you are serious about anew marriage when you treat your current marriage lightly. Mixed signals give mixed messages.
I don't mean to be harsh, but without really knowing anyone personally, can give any real insight.
2006-12-12 00:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue honey. He doesn't want the responsibility. Do what you have to, but stay in school and have a better life than he does.
2006-12-12 00:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE LOVES YOU GIVE HIM TIME. BUT YOU HAVE TO BE SURE FOR THIS. BUT IF U DONT FEEL THE SAME ABOUT HIM, THEN YOU SHOULD JUST MOVE BACK IN WITH YOUR PARENTS. TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK. HAPPY HOLIDAYS.
2006-12-12 00:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life...don let this ppl make use of it. Have some self-respect.
2006-12-12 00:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow get rid of him,,,think bout it,,hes old enough to b ur dad hun
2006-12-12 00:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by FabOlouS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...he's like your Dad....do you want to marry your dad?? HE'S FREAKIN OLD!!! JEEZ
2006-12-12 00:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back home!
2006-12-12 00:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋