I'm an 18 year old female and lately I am never in the mood for sex. And when I try to have sex, thinking that will get me in the mood, it just hurts or its uncomfortable like I am really dry (even tho I know I am wet--sorry if that's gross). I'm on Ortho Tricyclen Los and have been for 4 years and this has never happened before. I'm with a steady boyfriend and I have no worries. Although lately I've been insecure cuz I don't feel sexy enough or whatever (I'm not fat but I feel like I could lose some 5-10lbs--Im 5'6" and 120lbs). I used to be able to look at porn and get totally turned on but that don't work anymore. I've masturbated and it takes me forever, if at all, to come now. Me and my bf are going to get the keys to our new place this weekend so maybe I'm stressing out? I'm afraid I'm a 45 year old woman stuck ina young looking body. How the hell can I get my sex drive raging again? PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-12-11 16:07:00 · 5 answers · asked by teneff88 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Like when I do have sex, it literally feels like I'm doing it for the first time. It hurts down there!! Me and my boyfriend have sex like every other day so maybe am I getting desensitized?
2006-12-11 16:08:18 · update #1
It could be many reasons. You are on birth control. Birth control can lower your libido because of the hormones. Women naturally have estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. But with birth control pills the estrogen pills are made so high that the testosterone is made we we we little bit. Testosterone is what is responsible for your libido, (your sex drive). Also you are 45, you could be perimenopausal. Even though you get wet, you still may be dry on the inside. I know that sounds wierd but it could be so. They have these pills that release a very, very low dose estrogen and are inserted vaginally. BUT, you should get your hormones checked. It will be hard to find out the accuracy due to the birth control pills. Birth control pills can actually cause vaginal dryness as well. If you go to your gynecologist and talk to them about your libido, you can try going on natural testosterone. Dont freak out! I tried it for about a year and a half and I was only 26 but my testosterone level was barely there. I wasn't even on the pill. I took injections. But the dose was very, very low. Let me tell you, it sure did help! Here is some information on the medication.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Natural-Libido-Help-for-Women&id=371983
Talk to your doctor if he/she does deal with compounded medication. This medication is made out of more natural supplementation and made specifically for you. Works really well. But, like I said with being on birth control pills it may be hard to check your hormones because of that. But go get checked and talk to your doctor.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-11 17:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by egomezz007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are too weighted in a female direction and the birth control pills will be having their effect in that direction too.
You need testosterone to make you in the mood. The more masculine a woman is, the hornier she's likely to be, ironic though that is, which is one reason you'll find some surprisingly masculine women not only married, but in long-lasting, successful marriages.
2006-12-11 22:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is unusual to constrain your accomplice's sexual fantasies to deliberating handiest intercourse with you. I imply, what is the factor of fantasizing if it is anything that you just would do in truly existence? A myth isn't meant to be truly. You want new fabric every so often to make it valued at masturbating, besides. Another factor that turns out unusual is how involved you're over his masturbation frequency. I imply, I truthfully in no way inquire approximately that stuff with my accomplice, due to the fact that I believe it is personal. Maybe he is afraid to masturbate due to the fact that he is aware of he will ought to reply plenty of questions approximately it. Even if he did it, he'd on the whole say he did not do it, simply to restrict answering your litany of questions. Stop asking him approximately how almost always he masturbates and what he masturbates approximately. If he needs to percentage that with you, he's going to do it on his possess, however my wager is that he does not wish to percentage all that expertise. Obviously, arguing is impeding your intercourse existence, as you mentioned it will probably preserve you from intercourse for as much as every week. So give up arguing with him. Consider this, is what you are arguing over valued at the results? The results is that you just think extra emotionally disconnected, and there is no intercourse within the night time. I'd say so much arguments don't seem to be valued at it. Also, I quite do not see a predicament with how almost always you've gotten intercourse. You say he might be completely satisfied with a couple of times every week. You say that you just truthfully have it four occasions every week. Either manner, no less than you 2 are nonetheless having intercourse on a consistent foundation, so depend your advantages there. If you wish intercourse greater than he does, you would constantly masturbate in among the ones occasions. Also, it appears like you're equipped to get him keen on intercourse, seeing that you're announcing that he's having intercourse with you extra almost always than he might if left to his possess instruments. So why no longer simply pass with the approaches that what paintings so that you can get him to wish it extra almost always?
2016-09-03 07:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be because of the birth control you're using, just go and talk to your doctor
2006-12-11 16:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Piglet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh go look for specialist help
2006-12-11 16:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋