I realize my bfr. is not Mr.Right, I want to leave, but it's so hard, especially since I started school here and I don't want to quit what I started. Any suggestiong how to make it painless and hasslefree???
2006-12-11 15:44:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know tough one, I'm sort of in the same boat , what i recommend you do finish your school then get a good job and them leave him. goo luck
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2006-12-11 15:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Painless and hasslefree does not exist in the world of relationships. The only thing that you can do is get all of your ducks in a row (place to live/make sure your name is taken off of all bills) and make sure you are absolutely ready to completely cut yourself off from the guy. No talking, no emailing, no hanging out....
This guy may be feeling the same as you (you never know).
Remember, just because you're apart from him doesn't mean you have to leave the area. He'll get over it....Just be careful because there are some pretty nutty people out there. Good luck, be safe!
2006-12-11 23:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by astonished 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, do it in person, maybe at a park or somewhere outside if the weather is nice. Or try to do it over something simple like coffee. You could start to say that you're really stressed out with school and that you're not sure if you have time for a relationship. Maybe tell him that you wanna cool things off and he should get your hint by this point. If he asks you what you mean, be straight up, and DON'T tell him that you can still be friends if you don't really mean it.
Good luck:)
2006-12-11 23:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really are no easy way to leave hasslefree. Painless for you, maybe. But there will be pain for some one. My advise is to tell him how you feel. Maybe he's feeling the same way as you and just dont want to hurt your feeling. Then again, maybe he's just a jerk and just dont care. I dont know him like you do. So you just need to think about it and I'm sure you will find the answer to your question. Good luck to ya dear.
2006-12-11 23:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by mcdermond3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be painful and a hassle, but if it no longer feels right and he is not the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, then it is time to move on. Can't you just move out and find your own place and continue your schooling? Or don't you want to live in the same town as him? You may find that he is feeling the same way and will be relieved that you are leaving.
2006-12-11 23:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to quit school or leave the city. Just tell him that you don't want the relationship anymore. Painless and hasslefree isn't congruent with reality, but the longer you stay with him the more it's going to hurt.
2006-12-11 23:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. This may be an old saying but it is true. Sometimes honesty does hurt....but wouldn't you rather just get the hurt over with for you and him so you can both go on with your life? Who knows...you may open up to him and tell him that you think it's a dead end relationship and he may feel the same way but was just affraid of hurting YOUR feelings.
Just be honest.
2006-12-11 23:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by ~*FreeSoul*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to be painless and hasselfree because relationships involve people.
You're just going to prolong the pain by not acting like a grown up and doing what you have to do.
It'll give him a chance to find a new partner and for you to be free.
2006-12-11 23:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does it have to do with you starting school. Whatever the reason is if you are not feeling like it's the right person let them know asap. This way you are not wasting your time and his. Just be truthful and he should appreciate it. He might get mad, but it is better off that you tell him sooner than later. It's only fair to him that he knows how you trully feel, maybe he feels the same way.
2006-12-11 23:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you are talking about two different problems. Take steps to get your own place or move in with someone else. That way, you are not living with Mr. Wrong anymore but still can finish what you started in regards to school.
2006-12-11 23:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. Short and sweet. Don't be condescending or patronizing, tell him you respect him, you're happy for your time together, but you don't see it going anywhere and you think its best if you end things. Waiting, or giving him long excuses will just make it all worse for everyone. Good luck!
2006-12-11 23:49:28 · answer #11 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋