I like watching it with my boyfriend and HIM ONLY i dont find it intersting when im watching it alone!...Only problem is i dont like him watching it or viewing it on the net when he is alone it makes me feel he is more into that than into ME! what should i do? should i quit all together or what? please HELP
2006-12-11 15:34:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hun its ok if u two do watch it together but he will watch it alone and if hes on the net ask yourself does he have a cam ?is he an addict of that? i think they go thru a phase of that .. to learn .. to get all hormoned up but you cant stop it and it sux .. they arent mature he will watch it some guys do and some dont and it sets a pattern for life.
2006-12-11 15:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 09:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you have that problem. I feel the same way at times but I have learned that men are going to look at what they want to. I just turn the other cheek to it. After fighting about it, I realized that he sleeps with me every night and they can't give him all he needs. They are not flesh and blood but I am. You will cause more problems fighting with him about it than ignoring it.
You need to figure out why you are really mad. Are you insecure, jealous, etc.? I finally realized that I was jealous of 2-D material and actually started laughing about it. It really was ridiculous that I was so upset over it. I would suggest that you have a talk with him and tell him how it makes you feel when he looks at it alone. After that, you have said your peace. What more can you do, right? So, turn a blind eye to it and don't mention it again.
You might want to stop watching it with him if you are serious about not having him look at it. Watching it with him in a man's eyes makes him think you don't have a problem with him looking at it. It's a little hypocritical. I watch it with him now that I don't care anymore but when I was first angry I wouldn't. Hope that helps!
2006-12-11 15:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this the wrong way but it sounds like you might have some security issues. It's normal for a woman to feel that way if her guy is REALLY into porn, but face it, he's not going to stop watching it if he enjoys it just because you stopped, so you might as well enjoy it with him. If he hasn't given you a reason to feel insecure (cheating way) then don't. It's only TV.
2006-12-11 15:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by qtpisunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Likewise... i m facing the same thing too... well, i did told him that i prefer him watching it with me, rather than alone by himself... it went ok for while. Now i know he's doing it alone again, wenever he's at the computer...
This is not about us feeling insecure... the real issue here is MEN... oh that cliche MEN ARE ALL THE SAME is true after all... i have accepted the fact that they are soooo sexually inclined.
Nessa, this is better than he strays out... you know what i mean... I'd rather have him stay at home in front of the computer or the box!!
2006-12-12 14:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by blank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just for future reference sweetie: Computer/movie porn is an addiction, and it only gets worse, whether you watch or not. As an addiction it will only worsen, and he will become increasingly unavailable to you. Addictions include alcohol, drugs, nicotine, gambling, etc. And they cannot have relations -- real committed relations as a husband and a father---because theyare already in a relationship - it just isn't with you!!!!!!! Addicts have a personality defect, and it is rarely successfully treated -- they continue to sneak hours just as an alcoholic will stash a bottle in the tank of the toilet. You can easily quit. -- women really don't become porn addicts. He probably cannot. Sooner or later you are going to have to decide just how much time you wish to spend by yourself..
2006-12-11 15:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so many women feel the same way and I think ALOT of guys are into it! My husband was and I never cared until he actually cheated on me now I dont ever want to to look at another woman anywhere! Not saying yours will cheat but my answer would be to just talk to him about why he does it alone and tell him it bothers you, if he loves you hell stop!
2006-12-11 16:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said the same thing to my partner. I asked him, "Would you look into a strange couples bedroom window and watch them have sex?" He said "no, that would be perverted." Then, what's the difference between doing that and watching porn? It's still getting your rocks off watching other people have sex. Start downloading some hot male porn with ripped guys, and see if he likes you doing it without him! When he see's you doing it maybe he'll realise he should only do it when your next to him. Ask yourself if you classify his actions as cheating on you? if your unsure, then quit watching it. But will he??
2006-12-11 15:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by axix9 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep on watching it with him
don't quit, next time surprise him by stopping by while he is surfing porn and give him the time of his life, when your finished ask him which is better cyberville or the real deal
you know the real thing is always better
and another way to look at it, he may be getting horny looking, but who is getting his goodies? Y O U correct?
2006-12-11 15:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by seven_ms_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep watching it together of course. I dont understand the big deal if he watches it when you arent there.
2006-12-11 15:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋