My sister-in-law just got divorced. She had been cheating on her husband for 2 years with her current boyfriend. During her seperation from her husband (which lasted about a year after she told him about her affair), she continued to see him. He was cheating on his wife as well. He still hasn't divorced his wife, although he's been promising to do so for over a year.
Luckily, my sister-in-law is beginning to see him for who he really is. She admits that she doesn't really love him anymore and wants him out of her life.
But she has asked her parents if she can bring him over for Christmas. She says that she feels sorry for him, because he has no where to go for the holidays. (He's seperated from his wife, and apparently not welcome there for Christmas!)
2006-12-11 15:32:00 · 9 answers · asked by MountainChick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one in the family likes this guy. He's an insecure, materialistic slimeball. And even though my sister-in-law is partly to blame for ruining her own family, we see him as the guy who ruined her life.
Her parents are being put in a bind. They don't what him over for Christmas. But they also feel sorry for their daughter, who is now clinically depressed.
What should they do?
2006-12-11 15:35:10 · update #1
If he will make everyone unhappy, then probably not, but Christmas is a time of love and forgivness and acceptance and unless there's going to be a lot of alcohol, (where someone will unload on him,) it should be ok...
But if his presence will spoil the party, then no.. If it means that much to your sister in law, (to ruin everyone's Christmas,) perhaps she and he should just go somewhere alone together. Does that make sense?
2006-12-11 15:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Golfcarmel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How approximately getting presents based consistent with relatives? you should get the sister, brother and nephew a super board interest, or some thing else relatives oriented. For the moms and dads, you should get a very good bottle of wine or present basket. i think of you're dazzling, that is greater solid to be on the giving end than the receiving end while it includes massive families.
2016-10-18 03:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by mcfee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a loser, why allow him to ruin the holidays for all of you. And if he's not allowed for Christmas at his ex-inlaws, you can bet it's for a damn good reason! This is probably a situation where you can learn from someone else's mistake without it costing you anything
2006-12-11 15:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his best bet would be to find another woman to marry and get invited to their christmas get together. It is his own fault he's not welcomed anywhere for Christmas. And for your sister-n-law it's about time for her to go her separate ways also. It's okay to be friends after marriage, but if it's over.... it's over. It's time to move on.
2006-12-11 15:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes no one should be alone on christmas and the two of them might work things out,its only one day and if it makes the sister in law happy let him come,just talk about everyday things,the weather etc...
2006-12-11 18:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if the parents don't want him there for christmas it is for them to say. Why should they have to have an uncomfortable christmas. If she doesn't want to spend christmas there without him she just doesn't go.
2006-12-11 17:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by golden tigress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she want to bring him if she wants him out of her life...sounds like she is playing games with everyone...but I would let him over for dinner....its only one day_
2006-12-11 15:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he shouldn't. She is family, that is different. Tell him to go home to his wife and start kissing her butt.
2006-12-11 15:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 15:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by deni2darri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋