I am a single mother of 2 children who was in a very verbal and emotinal marriage and now that I am divorced I have put this wall up inside of myself as not get hurt again. But now I have been divorced/seperated for 3 years and have been with this new guy for about 2 years, I can honestly say that I love him and I know he loves me but I'm scared of getting hurt again. I have heard that he is going to get me a ring for christmas but I just can't seem to let the wall and not be afraid of getting hurt again anyone have any advise.
2006-12-11 15:18:01 · 15 answers · asked by fa0099 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When the time is right you will let him in....you have to take a chance and hope he is the right guy for you....it is a risk that you have to be willing to take...no one can push you_
2006-12-11 15:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie this is all I can say.....Life is SO SHORT!
I say fly by the seat of your pants and jump in.....You have been with him for two years you know him by now.....I understand the concerns you have with the children and I would say take it SLOW...I would be delighted to recieve a ring this christmas you are so lucky for that.....Having someone who cares about you and is not afriad of showing it....I would accept graciously but maybe have an understanding that the ring signifies a new chapter in your life, a long hard read....Enjoy your life and dont ever be afriad to love....
2006-12-11 23:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to have the courage you need to accept his love. You might indeed get hurt, but you will never have the good stuff if you don't take a chance. If this guy has never done anything to hurt you, why assume the worst now?
2006-12-11 23:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like your ex. After being with this guy for 2 years, you know what he's like and found him worthy enough to love. Let that wall down, he's not your ex.
2006-12-11 23:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to choose to "get over it" (the fear)...you know what? You may well get hurt again some day...nobody can tell you that you won't...but are you going to allow yourself to missout on the joy and fun of love, just to spare yourself possible pain?
To me, it's worth the risk...hearts are resilient, they heal...why voluntarily miss out on so much kewl stuff because you "might" get hurt? Accept that hurt happens...and live your life to the best of your ability...
If you never felt emotional pain, how could you know what joy was?
2006-12-11 23:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Experience makes us what we are today! If you decide to take the plunge again and if he is a great guy, the wall will start going away on it's own!
2006-12-11 23:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try reading up on how to build a better relationship,how to trust again after being hurt,maybe try reading the bible corinthians chapt 12,it's the love chapter.pray to God to heal your broken heart and give back the trust you need for this relationship.
2006-12-12 00:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard to do, I still haven't conquered this one. If you figure out a good plan let us know. Once you get walked on for 20 years, it's hard to lay down and take it again!
2006-12-11 23:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not healed yet, in my opinion you need to hold off on marriage, healing your pain comes from forgiveness, that cleans your heart, the only way to heal is to have God help you, only he can help break those walls down....Jesus died to forgive us of our sins, and to give us life, and life more abundantly.....He is a healer, a deliverer, He is love, He is everything, all of us need him, to rid of all our pains, He is not complicated, He awaits us to invite him into our hearts.....God bless ya
2006-12-11 23:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard i know, but osmetimes you just have to open up the door and let someone in. I'm not saying let all your guards down, just let him in. you will know if it is right at the time. Talk to him about how you are feeling. if he truly loves you and doesn't want to hurt you he will understand.
2006-12-11 23:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by lil_racer_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋