Kind of a touchy subject...(preferably for African women)?

Question

Please do not feel anyway by my asking this question...it's just really curiosity...Why is it that is seems that most afican women have a problem (even if they may not say it outloud) with another race woman (white,indian,chinese..etc) dating a black man?

To me if feels like pure racism and I thought we were trying to get away from that....(no offense again) I would never have an issue with interacial dating...

PS- and by the way I do NOT agree with the men that do not help the situation by saying they DO NOT date their own race-that is just ignorant.

Answer 1

Good question and I'm not at all offended. I think black women feel betrayed by black men for not standing by us to help raise our children and keep the family together. Black women start to wonder "What do these other women have that we don't have?"...i don't know...I never have been put in this situation before and I'm sure alot I'll get alot of thumbs down for this answer...it's just my opinion...nothing more.

Answer 2

I think a lot of it may have to do with the fact that the statistics are that they're the majority who are unwed, so anytime they see a black man with a woman of another race, that's another man they could've had, you know? I don't think most of them mean bad by it, it's just the way they feel and I can understand why.

EDIT: I get what you're saying. It's a nice idea that there should be none of these social taboos (for whatever reasons) and all but the truth is, they're still out there. And like another poster mentioned... it can be the same on the white side too. I know of white women that don't like seeing white men dating black women. Honestly though, I don't think that for black women it's so much of a racial issue, as it is just a disadvantage to them, you know? Think about it, even if a black woman was okay with being with a white man, there's still a good percentage of white men that wouldn't even think of dating them, so you can see how it's kind of a lose/lose situation, you know?
If only everyone was like you, but unfortunately there are still a lot of racial issues in America.

Answer 3

I dunno, I think in some cases its based on ignorance. I've asked the question to people who seem to have issues with that and in some cases its a matter of the "good" black men being taken or as the women of other races being viewed as nothing but a trophy. As a black woman I really could care less who dates who. I do have a problem, when its do to some notion that black women are inferior ( as is the view of a former friend of mine who is a black man who only dates women of other races).

Answer 4

I think that it's the same thing that white people think. I know that a lot of people don't approve of white women dating black guys or a white guy daing a black woman. I don't care either way, if it works then why not??

Answer 5

Because black girls only date black guys, so when a black guy dates a woman from another race, they have no couple

Answer 6

I think you have asked an excellent question, totally relevant to our society, and no one wants to speak about it (everyone is so PC). kudos!
I am ready for the thumbs downs and flames but here is some politically incorrect HONESTY for a change:
First of all, this is not exclusive to black women, all races get annoyed with interracial couples it is just that black women are more OUTSPOKEN. But I see white women that get irritated when black girls date white men, Asian women when white women date Asian men, White men when other races date white women, Black men get irritated with black women dating out etc...
I think that some people feel that it is insulting to their race when people date outside the race. Some people feel a sense of ownership over “their” men or women, it baffles me. I have even gotten dirty looks from white women when I am with a Latin man. Why do they care? He doesn't even look white and he wouldn't date a white woman if you paid him.
Some black women also have a problem with other black women dating outside of the race. I get dirty looks and sly comments from black women all of the time. I also have had other black women who have actively tried to flirt with my boyfriend in front of me, possibly feeling that I since I am not with a black man and I don’t look “ghetto” that I must be weak or timid. I assume this is also why some black women are more outspoken with interracial couples particularly white women, because white women are perceived to be weak. I also guess women are just competitive.
My sister is one of those black women that despises all black/white interracial couples including black female/white male. I will use her as an example because she is the only person that has really been honest with me on this issue. She feels that many black men use idea of having a white woman as a status symbol. I.E. The wealthy black man who when he was broke, was with “the sistas” because a white woman wouldn’t have him, but now that he has “come up” he gets a white woman to share his wealth with. She has also said that many blacks have a self hatred, “If it’s not snowing I’m not going; If it ain’t white it ain’t right.” She has said that black men want what is “light bright and damned near white.” When it comes to black women or they want any non black woman. I don’t really think it is all about black women’s so called “attitudes” though because some of my white girlfriends that date black men have more attitude than any black girls that I know. I have seen this to be true with many non black women that date black men. They typically behave like the stereotypical black girl so the justification that black women have attitudes is not totally accurate.
My sister does not have a problem with my Black/Latin unions but when I have dated white men, she was not very friendly to them. She is not a racist per se, she is a beautiful and educated black woman and if she so chose she could have a white man she just feels that black women in history's past were brutalized, ravaged, and raped by white men, and that it is disrespect to our ancestors to willingly be with a white man. This sentiment holds true with many black women which is part of the reason that many black women don't date white men. Many white people think that black female /white male unions are rare because of our attitudes, looks etc. In some cases that is true, but I assure you that when white men know that a pretty black girl dates interracially there is no shortage of white men that pursue us.
So it is not necessarily that black women are jealous like people think. Yes, some are jealous when they feel that they may be a good catch: beautiful, educated, and loyal and they have trouble finding a decent black man but "Becky" or "Molly" has a good black man even though she may not be as attractive or whatever. I have heard black women who say that Black men will date any white woman, fat, ugly, broke, uneducated, it doesn't matter as long as their white. But black women/white men unions are different. Usually if you see a black female/white male couple they are gorgeous, wealthy, or educated. You seldom see an interracial couple with an unattractive black woman. So some black women feel that it is insulting that a black man would "venture out" for trashy white women.
So to sum it up, the reason that many black women have a problem with interracial couples is because black women are least likely than any other race to get married and they are more likely than any other race of woman to be a single parent (only 48% of black households are headed by married couples). Because of this when they see a black man married to a non black woman and being a father to biracial children as opposed to setting that standard for Black/Black unions, they feel that it is slighting to black women and that black men have deserted the race.