we have a daughter been 2gether 4yrs and she thinks everythings fine I just dont want 2 hurt her shes a good person but just not 4 me please girls I need help
2006-12-11 14:44:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Best thing to do is be honest....her feelings will be hurt I can not lie...but just be yourself and be honest_
2006-12-11 14:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man no offense but before you have child together you should figure out if the girl is "for you" that poor little girl are you sure you can't go through counseling as a one last try effort or something? if not my advice is this tell her (because you obviously do )care about her and that you are just not sure things are working out between you ask her how she feels because she may feel the same and just tell her you would like to try a separation to see how things go maybe you can go from there
2006-12-11 22:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by marion r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's going to hurt her if she's in love with you!
There's no way to change that!
Why don't you start telling her the things you don't like about her so she'll either try to change them to please you or she'll realize that she can't make you happy and then she 'll be more understanding of a break-up!
Try for your daughter!!!! Also counseling could be an option!
2006-12-11 22:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she is great but u think she deserves much better than u.she needs some one that can treat her like the person she is to be treated as.and if she tells u that you do all of that tell her that u knows that she needs more and at this stage you can't seem to provide what she needs, keep your face sad and make it look like u want to cry and just walk away saying i'm sorry in a low tone
2006-12-11 23:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by fantasticgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt is unavoidable when come to breaking a relationship.Do it in a flash,don't beat around the bush and stuck in the middle telling her.Don't said "Its not you,is me".That phrase stinks and it will hurt more.Tell her the truth what you really feel,she is your child mom,you don't want your child to lose her mom,do you?
2006-12-11 23:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I was with a man that didn't truly didn't want to be with me, then hurt as it may, I would want him to go. Life goes on and life hurts sometimes. My concern is the child, whatever you do, always be there for that child.
2006-12-11 22:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... here goes... set her up with a different guy that would be more appropriate for her... somebody more loyal to a family than you. Or get marital counseling... you have two kids together and you are leaving??? Not cool dude, not cool at all!!!
2006-12-11 22:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the longer you wait the longer you make it worse. please sit her down the two of you and explain to her exactly how you feel. do not beat around the bush. please do not tell her that it is not her that it is you because if it was not her then your problem would not be with her. if she sits long enough to listen to everything you have to say, please tell her why you are leaving and why you do not want to be with her. no matter what either way her feelings will hurt. you will not be able to change that. be truthful!!!!!
2006-12-11 22:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by sumayyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i appreciate honesty - even the brutal and painful kind. it would hurt me more if my partner would stick with me when deep down he's not happy. i guess i've learned to accept that that's how life goes - sometimes we get hurt by the people we love, and sometimes we hurt the people we least want to hurt.
2006-12-11 22:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gonna hurt her no matter what i just went through that but she probably doesnt want to be in a onesided relationship so tell her how you feel but offer to be there for her and actually be there .dont just say you will and then dont.and your daughter should come first no matter what.
2006-12-11 22:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_n_sassy25asd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋