Keep in mind we both have families and stay in two different states. Her husband knows about me but my wife doesn't know about her. Is it wrong??????
2006-12-11 14:40:11 · 33 answers · asked by Dr. Goldfish 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wrong. No it's not wrong that you keep in touch with your ex .It's wrong that you don't share it with your wife if that all it is . Is the conversation steamy between you two and full of stuff you wouldn't want to share with your wife. Having a friendship with your ex is okay if that's all it is. If your in a happy, secure marriage then it works but if your marriage is on the rocks then it could be messy. What's that saying absents make the heart grow fonder.
2006-12-11 14:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Wally 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's isn't wrong, but I honestly don't think it's appropriate. Only because you are both married, have a family and lead two different lives. It's a little risky. Old feelings may arise even if the two of you are residing far away from each other. Maybe her husband and your wife do mind, but prefer not to say anything; only because they don't want to come off as being possessive.
Again, this is my view.
2006-12-11 14:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think this is wrong as long as u don't have any intentions of trying to get back together, cheating on your spouses,etc. Once you are in a long term relationship, assuming you were, you form a bond and it is natural to want to know how that persons life went and if they are okay, you share a history and no matter whether you keep in contact or not the memories will always be there. If you have a jealous spouse however it is very hard to do this, sometimes its not worth it if it would cause problemsin your marriage. But I think it is wonderful is someone can remain lifelong friends.
2006-12-11 15:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it is wrong #1 because your wife doesn't know and you are keeping it a secret which leads me to believe you feel like it is wrong on some level and therefore shoudln't be doing it.
Past is Past and your wife is right now and your future. If you are keeping in touch with this ex you are giving your wife ALL of you like you are suppose to.
2006-12-11 14:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong you are married and the only women that you shold be communicating with is your wife and work mates other then that it is very near to cheating on your wife especially if you had dated this women in the past. Most women would find this disturbing even if it was a gal pal you had a crush on end the communication ASAP and tell her that you are happily married and don't think it is right to be talking to each other.
2006-12-11 14:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife also do the same thing as you then it is not wrong. Fair and square!! But if she's that type who loves you dearly and faithful to you then you are in WRONG. Not all woman are so generous and open minded. I think you should introduce your ex-girlfriend to your wife in order to continue your friendship with your ex. Good luck!!
2006-12-11 14:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you hiding from your wife? Do you still have feelings for your ex? Be honest with your wife and tell her what is going on..Would you want her to still be talking to her ex and you know nothing about it?Treat others how you would want to be treated.
Oh..if you have to ask if it is wrong..than you know the answer!
2006-12-11 15:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Hey Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is most definitely WRONG to keep in touch. Your wife deserves to know what you have been up to, and I doubt that she will be happy about it. How would you feel if your wife kept up with an old boyfriend and didn't tell you about it?
2006-12-11 14:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know the answer to that question by the fact that you are hiding it from your own wife. Why do you feel the need to constantly reach into your past ? Are you unhappy ? Imagine if your wife was talking to her ex boyfriend behind your back, how would you feel ?
2006-12-11 14:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, you should have no secrets with your spouse. Tell her about it, why you stay in touch, etc. And let her comfort level be your guide, if she doesn't like it I'm afraid your wife and her feelings should come before those of an old ex.
2006-12-11 15:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋