Me and my husband is starting over from scratch. We both been naughty this year and lets say we had papers drawn...but now its better because we both seek counseling and the Lord. Any stories of second chance marriages.
2006-12-11 14:36:52 · 25 answers · asked by RONNIEKAT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes...I believe that unless there is abuse involved marriage should be for life. We all have problems. Its to be expected that there will be problems whenever people live together and share their money and lives with one another. But people just give up too easily. Its easier to get a divorce than it is to work on problems becasue, lets face it, its not fun. If you really love your husband you will try and make it work. I thik its great that you are starting from scratch. Lay down some ground rules and realize that marriage is not always a piece of cake, it takes lots of work. I wish you the best in your marriage. Good Luck. And I commend you two for actually realizing that your marriage it worth giving it a second chance.
April- There was nothing wrong with her question. This is an informal forum. We don't have to speak all prim and proper. What is wrong with you?? Why would you insult her and then act like you were helping her? She asked "Do you believe in giving marriage a second try?" because that was the question she wanted answered. "My husband and I are starting from scratch" isn't a question is it??
2006-12-11 14:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shayna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister and her ex-husband just got engaged. I can honestly say if he was the same person it would never work. They were married and had two children. He has done things in the past that would make your blood boil even just to hear about them. They have been divorced for 5/6 years but had to remain in contact because of the kids. He changed jobs, changed friends,quit drinking and doing drugs,and most importantly found GOD. I had told her I would not support her being in a relationship with him again if he was the same rotten person he use to be. They took their time, moved back in together after being separated for 2/3 years. We all told her do what is best for her kids and that all we ever wanted was for her to be happy, but also not rush into getting married again. They recently bought a new house together and are very happy. Both are committed to making their marriage work the second time around.
I think that is the key if you are committed to change and to each other there should be no reason things should not work out.
All the "naughty" stuff from the past will hopefully not affect the future.
2006-12-11 22:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I last year seperated because of sexual immorality in our marriage on both parts, but we had broken trust, and pain and resentment. We seperated for a month, but we got back together, and have been going through marriage counceling, and also seeking God's will for us, and our marriage is stronger than it's ever been. I'm so thankful to God that my wife and I are back together and that we got a second chance at our marriage. Back in Aug. we celebrated our 10 year anniversary, and to celebrate it, we renewed our wedding vows. I love her so much, and have vowed never to put her through that again, because all that pain isn't worth it.
Praise God for you and your husband getting help, and working out the issues in your marriage, and that your working at it. Your doing something alot of couples don't do, and I'm very happy for you both.
Take care and God Bless
2006-12-11 22:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..i gave my marriage a second chance and it is fine so far but unfortunately my hubby is down with a terminal illness and I am glad I did not leave him or I will regret all my life. Now I am by his side taking care of him and his every need ,. Even though right now I am the bread winner of the family, I don regret it..at least my conscious is clear.
2006-12-11 22:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving it a second try? It depends on a lot, but one thing I would say is that generally people do not change. Your problems will most likely be the same. The difference will be if you each can learn to accept them and take responsibility for them and if you can live with them.
My experience has told me that things don't really change. If you want to give marriage a second try, my advice would be to take N_'s advice and find a new one. But only after you have really figured out who you are and what you really want.
2006-12-11 22:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Cycleogical 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good for you totally. i have been married for almost two years now and it is a second job. i believe that i got married just because, but i know that i love my husband. notice i did not say that i am in love. i wanted to go to counseling, but we are both know it alls (smile) and we already know what our issues are so we believe we do not need counseling. we're crazy. i think we would have a better relationship if we were friends. he does not agree. i even said to him lets live in two separate houses( stay married of course) he will not here of it. i am 30 and he is 35. i hope that everything truly work out for you and your husband. (smile)
2006-12-11 22:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by sumayyah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(OMG first I hope you learn to write English... your question should begin ..."My husband and I are starting over from scratch." Don't tell me you didn't know this. And if you speak like this at work, you'll never go any farther in that company than you are now.... learn to read, write and speak television English, hon.)
Marriage is Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust, plus a whole lot of lovies, security, and exclusive sexual and sensual pleasure. I'd say, by this definition, you aren't even married, sweetie. Good that you have sought counseling. Did you learn anything about Trust??? Are you now wife material? And is he now husband material? If you aren't, don't go on. You will fall back into your patterns of promiscuity, and hon, that isn't marriage, it's a live in, boinking buddy.
2006-12-11 22:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Based on what had happened to a friend of mine, now she is happy I mean both of them are happy and they remarried each other again for the second time, they seemed to be sweet lovers. Yeah, I believe it might work so it's worth giving a second try.
2006-12-11 22:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All sorts of second marriages work out between two people who were married and divorced from each other. That is, IF both people are sincere and genuine about mending their ways and learning to accept and love each other.
2006-12-11 22:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any personal stories, but I think married couples can get back together. As long as both people admitted what they did wrong and forgave the other person, and as long as both are committed to not repeating the same mistake(s) and have come to realize that underneath it all they really still love each other, then i think it can work out. best of luck to you!
2006-12-11 22:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋