Would you ABORT YOUR MALE SON if you knew that he'd GROW UP TO ONLY 5'4"?

Question

Considering that its fact that very short men have much harder lives than the general population (make less money, date much much less - if at all, or remain an involuntary virgin for life) - would any of you abort your MALE son if you knew that he was only going to grow up to 5'4" or shorter? Researchers in Sweden have found that short men are most at risk for suicide anyways-

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2005/07/1...

I wish my father never had kids with my mother. Height is almost always passed on through the womens side. My mother is only 5'0" and my father is 5'10" - I have to suffer my mothers genetic sins and live my life at 5'4". I'm a 23 year old Stanford psych student who has never dated and chances are I will never date due to my repulsive height. Women say that height is not important - but thats not at all true - height is everything and now I have to suffer as a 5'4" cripple.

And please, no "god" or "Jesus" answers - those concepts are rationally meaningless.

and if you say you wouldn’t abort him then what you should really ask yourself is if you would even date a guy who is 5’4” – which is an obvious “no.”

Answer 1

No I would not abort him, and you being a psych major need to start doing some serious self-analysis. Short guys, fat guys, ugly guys can get dates I have seen it myself, so stop blaming your height for your lack of "action" it is probably your miserable personality that drives women away.

Answer 2

Have you ever thought of asking a different question?You must take responsibility for yourself and how your life is turning out.Why so much focus on your physical stature. I'm sure you would turn people away just based on your take on life. I figure that other people don't owe me a good day. I am the one who must put effort into my happiness and success in life. I'm certain people have told you get counselling, do volunteer work, join clubs and activities at Stanford.Do not look at a female as a potential date but as a potential friend first and then see how things develop.Please don't compare your life to that of a person who has a disability.That is just pathetic.People who face REAL challenges everyday and still have the courage to wake up and face each new day are willing to go the distance to LIVE life. If you want to wallow in self pity and do nothing to help yourself then so be it. It's your life your throwing away.Do with it as you will.

Answer 3

Is this your first quarter? I am amazed that you are asking this question here. You have some wonderful resources available to you there (I mean counselors), and you may just want to utilize them. I am working on my Ph D in Counseling Psych and I will honestly tell you that many guys I see who are short (friends and otherwise), are dating or married to some awesomely beautiful women. You need to ask yourself what is really going on in your life that makes you feel inadequate and explore what else might be keeping you from dating. Stop blaming your height because it seems like the easiest solution. I had a friend in high school who was doing modeling and was really upset over his inability to get a girlfriend. Was he good looking? You bet! Was he tall? Only 5'10. Did he have money? Lots of it! Did he smoke? Not a chance! He really appreciated my candor when he asked me what I thought and I told him the solution to his problem… breathe mints. The point is he was looking too hard at what he was not what he was doing.

Answer 4

No. I'm only 5 2 1/2. Don't worry about your height so much. Most girls want to be with a guy who is sincere, honest and kind. Sure looks are an important form of attraction at first, but that doesn't last long and the relationship either moves on because you love each other's company or it fizzles out. Tallness, shortness, full head of hair, baldness, mustache on him, mustache on her, curly hair, blonde, brunette, redhead or what not, everyone likes different things.

I ended up marrying a very tall guy. When I first met him I didn't like that he was so tall, but he was so sweet and kind to me. Sometimes I wish he was shorter or I was taller, especially since I hate wearing heals and he always has to hunch down just for a hug while I stand tip toe. I know sometimes being tall is a burden on him, his legs cramp up on flights and drives--not enough leg room in the old minivan. Hitting his head and having to duck down. Everything has to be bigger like pants, beds (or his feet hang off) and forget about taking a nice bath together--we don't fit in the tub together!! Now I am feeling kind of bummed out. Oh well, there isn't anything we can do about it so Cest la vie!

Answer 5

My husband is 5'5. It's never been a problem for him, he was in the USMC for 10 years, a firefighter for 6 and is now in Medical School. He had a very "enthusiastic" dating history before he met me, and women, all shapes, sizes, heights, colors, still flock to him like flies on honey. It all depends on the man, if you feel like a small man, then you will be a small man with a chip on your shoulder. I would not abort a son, knowing he would be short like his dad, I would raise him to be like his dad, a much bigger man than most tall men are.

You might consider that your lack of dates has nothing to do with your "repulsive height."

Answer 6

Never! Your self esteem, not your height, is your problem. Not one, but Two of the sexiest, most charismatic, totally hot, men that I have ever known were 5'5". There is very little difference between that and 5'4". They were totally different in looks, however they had a lot in common. They dressed well, had beautiful hair, eyes and teeth, and wow, could they Dance!!. What drew me, and a whole lot of other women to them, was their SELF CONFIDENCE. All of these things you could develop. One more thing, they respected the women in their lives, including their Mothers.

Answer 7

I'm 5'4" and I've dated quite a few guys who are shorter than me!!! Not all women are shallow. My brother is not much taller than me and he dated A LOT! He was a popular guy ... some of the guys tried to make fun of because of his height but he didn't let it get to him because they were jealous dorks.

If you have a sour attitude about your height it will show in your personality. Try to be a little more optimistic ... real women like to be with guys who have high self confidence.

Answer 8

Sounds like self-loathing and pity. I think gratitude comes in handy at times like that. You AREN'T crippled, you have the capability to BE a psych student, live in the Western world, fall in love...(even if it is not reciprocated...it still cannot be taken away from you)! If you feel repulsive that is how you will portray yourself to others. Getting laid and dating aren't the only things to do in this world! I have a friend doing his masters in psych. He is a thalidomide baby. He has hook fingers, no hair and one glass eye that is weepy. He is the sweetest guy I know (other than my husband) and he faces the world every day with extreme courage, grace and integrity. EVERYONE notices that!!

Answer 9

No, I wouldn't abort the baby-
I'm 5'0 and my husband, 5'3. so, I'd say it is very likely that we will have a short child. While I'm sure it is difficult for a male come to terms with this height, the truth is some women, ( like me.) like men who are closer to thier height.

I have dated men between 5'11 and 6'3, and I have found that I feel more comfortable with a man who isnt towering over me.

Answer 10

As a woman who is 5'4", a man who is a similar height does not bother me at all...look at Tom Cruise. He's not that tall but he's got it goin' on. Height is nothing, it's the chemistry you have between two people that matters.
I would love my son no matter what height he is, by the way--I would never abort anything.