But I didn't find that out directly from him. I found out from his co-worker. I feel bad about not asking him directly and ask his co-worker instead without his knowledge because he may not like that I know that he is engaged because maybe that is not my business to know... what do you think of it? Do you think he would be upset that I know about that he is engaged?
2006-12-11 14:32:28 · 28 answers · asked by Raines 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
But what if he has only met me after he is engaged?? If he met me before he is engaged, then yeah.. maybe that is kind of bad that he like 2 people at the same time. But what if he met me AFTER he is engaged and maybe find that he likes me better??
2006-12-11 14:40:11 · update #1
Actually I feel even worse after knowing that he is engaged because now I feel like as though I am in the middle of it or he already have someone. If I didn't know that he is engaged, I think I would probably feel better. Can anyone understand this psychology? He never told me about it. He always just said Hi and Good morning to me enthusiastically... We never really talked a lot except about telling him that I am worried that I may not pass the tests for the position as he is the team lead...
2006-12-11 14:46:26 · update #2
Isn't it possible that he may find that he likes me better and decide to break off the engagement with his fiancee?
2006-12-11 14:51:15 · update #3
I mean who knows how deep/good a relationship he has with his fiancee? Maybe it's not that close either... Is that possible? Why do people get engaged and not just get married right away??
2006-12-11 14:53:20 · update #4
He is just engaged, nor married, meaning that he is still not sure about marriage yet with the person, so what's wrong about getting involved?? Let's say he is married and have kids, yeah, then I would stay away. But, if he is only engaged and not married, I should still stay away? He can still break off his engagement if he really doesn't like her as much, you know... Besides, he only met me AFTER he is engaged, so he was not really with 2 girls at the same time, you know...
2006-12-11 15:08:39 · update #5
I wouldnt let him know that you know he is engaged...dont want to cause some friction between him and his co-worker. I would leave him alone since you would be wasting your time with a man that is taken_
2006-12-11 14:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Engaged = A promise, completely involved / committed state prior to marriage. Can even be held legally accountable. He breaks his promise to another with you. He will do the same to you one day and don't think you are soooo special that he won't.
You keep adding to your question. Does that not tell you that you are out on a limb? Am gaining the impression that you mean going steady over engaged. Sounds very Jr High. You got 20 best answers to your record. This question is getting worse by each addition.
Engaged = planning an actual marriage - signing for a license - promised to and witnessed by friends & family to commit. Fiance wearing a promise ring and buying a dress not wearing his ID bracelet and gym socks.
There are lots of single, available guys out there; why are you hung up on this one?! Forget him and carry on. Quit what iffing!
2006-12-11 23:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Quest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off....HE"S ENGAGED!!
He is off limits.....There are so many men out there but you think you want one that is attached??? Plus if he is attracted to you SO WHAT!! I wouldnt want to be with a man who is in an obvious relationship with someone else....That means if he gets with you he will probably have someone else waiting in the wings when the fancy hits....If you value your self respect and the respect of your co workers....LEAVE HIM ALONE!!! Find someone who is single...and If you dont mind that he's attached then I say You both deserve each other....
2006-12-11 23:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, what are you thinking? If you know the guy is engaged to be MARRIED what are you thinking about? How would you feel if someone had the same question about a guy you were engaged to? Move on and quit listening to gossip, it will only get you in trouble.
2006-12-11 22:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you care if he is upset? If the guy is not honest enough to be happy and proud of his fiancee, what makes you think he would be better with you?
If he is still interested in you and he is already engaged, he is a two-timing jerk anyway and you don't want anything to do with him.
If he is engaged and is happy to be and is only interested in his fiancee, he will be pleased to tell you when you show interest in this.
If he is not engaged and he is interested in you, it will be to both your advantage to clarify the situation.
In any situation, a direct approach to clarify the situation is best for all.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 22:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by newcalalily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay let think of it this way. What if you were engaged would you want another woman moving in on your man?
Stay away from him. Tell him you know. Of course it's your business!
2006-12-11 22:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is interested in you, then he should not be engaged. I have seen this more than once with people I work with. They still marry their fiances and try to have you on the side after. He has to ditch the fiance, if you put yourself out any further.
2006-12-11 22:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by easternvesper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness you found out. He should know you know if you are still interested after learning of his engagement. But he should also know you aren't going to interfere until he knows 100% what he wants. That's just a messy situation to put yourself into knowingly.
2006-12-11 22:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big warning sign!!! Walk away from this guy and don't look back. You don't want to be with a guy that would keep his engagement from you! He's a liar and probably a cheat.
2006-12-11 22:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by meggi1123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt get involved with this guy for two reasons...
a.) hes engaged but still wants to pursue soemone else which means he is sneaky and doesnt respect a woman he is with
b.) he is already engaged (unfortuntaley for his fiance) and therefore should be left alone by any self-respecting girl
2006-12-11 23:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋