I have been married for 15 yrs now and we have been through hell together. Everything about our relationship works great but the sex. I thought it was because I lost 120lbs and he was intimidated by that;he does have a slight erection problem but he says he adores me and wants me still but what do I do in the mean time.Any advice would be great I do love him very much and I am just scared I guess.
2006-12-11 14:25:04 · 8 answers · asked by grama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We aren't even married yet and he has no desire for sex unless he wakes up in the middle of the night. It is very discouraging. And sometimes it feels degrading to me. It makes me feel like it might be my appearance that detours him, but I know he adores me. I know he does.
You need to let him know that you love him, but the lack of interest is making you insecure. Let him know that you still want to be with him intimately. Talk to him, ease into a conversation at a time he is willing to talk. Don't try to start in the middle of a football game or in public. Maybe nuzzle up to him at night and talk about how you really love laying next to him and go from there. Boost his confidence in himself by letting him know you still want him. If he gets defensive, don't fight it, ease it over, let it drop, and try again later with a different strategy.
I'm currently in the middle of a lack of intimacy struggle myself. This seems to be slowly working for me.
Best of luck to you, Darlin.
2006-12-11 14:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by tryingmybest79 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a physical to make sure there are no serious problems. If he is not in poor health he can take medication to help with the sex issues. Don't give up now when you have come so far together.
2006-12-11 14:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes stay with him your happy in everything else as you say and he's a good man. Um try asking your doctor about his problem it could be he is on other medication that bothers this part of him . or he could be worried or stressed about something. Could be many things. Get him talking and opening up and find out from the doctor to rule out any medical problems.
Your in this together you'll both be fine.
God Bless
2006-12-11 14:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need his penis to make love to you or you to him take it slow and have fun remember petting and talking are great foreplay Sex is suppose to be fun so have fun and don't worry about intercourse it will happen when it happens meanwhile you will be enjoying each other
good luck
2006-12-11 14:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If everything is there but sex...go see some doctors to help him with his erection problem_
2006-12-11 14:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talking , communicating and viagra,blow jobs work well also, try a bit of kink , buy some toys for you and show him how to use them
2006-12-11 16:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get those pills for erectial disfunction.
2006-12-11 14:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the huusband but have an affair. Have Fun!!!
2006-12-11 14:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋