She's 21, she would kill me for asking this but I wanted some opinions on what she should do.
2006-12-11 14:17:04 · 7 answers · asked by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First off, she needs to get to a doctor and make sure it's not anything serious, such as a bladder or kidney infection. Also, whether serious or not, the doc might be able to solve the problem.
In the mean time, adult diapers will keep her more comfortable at night, and will keep the bed dry.
2006-12-11 22:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by Miakoda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot more young adults struggle with this problem than you might think. I think seeing a doctor at first to get tested for a bladder infection is probably a good idea -- she wouldn't even need to mention wetting the bed if she's too nervous about that, just tell them that she's having some trouble with urgently needing to urinate a lot lately (or something like that) and they'll run the test. If the cause is something simple like that, treating it will probably make the bed wetting go away, and not treating it could cause much more serious problems in the long run -- so encourage her to get checked out for that ASAP, in whatever way you can!
Assuming there's no obvious medical cause like that, what to do next would partly depend on to what degree this is a problem for her -- is she wetting the bed every night, or just once in awhile? If it's only once in awhile, are there any particular times where it seems more likely to happen, like when she's sick, tired, or under a lot of stress? Did she have a bedwetting problem when she was growing up (older than the age of 5 or 6) that might just be resurfacing (which can happen), or is this a brand new thing for her? To what degree is wetting the bed preventing her from getting a good night's sleep during the night, and is she over-tired or having difficulty functioning during the day as a result? Is this problem causing major difficulties with her self-esteem, self-confidence, and/or relationships, and if so, in what ways? All of these questions are things a doctor would like to know, if you can convince her to work up the courage to talk to one about this -- and they are also things that would affect what type of treatment or management ideas might be most helpful for her, whether or not the doctor is able to do anything to help her (which, if there's no clear-cut medical cause like an infection or diabetes, they may not be able to).
I'm also a young adult in my 20's who has struggled with this problem off and on, so I know how frustrating it can be. I don't claim to know of any "magic bullets" that will just make it go away (believe me, I wish there were though!), but I do know of some things that can help make it less severe or at least easier to cope with, depending on her answers to the questions above. Without those answers it's difficult to give any more specific advice, because there are so many different ways in which people can be affected by this problem, and what to do about it should really be guided by what might be causing it in her case, and (assuming there's no quick and easy way to make it stop, which there unfortunately usually isn't) how it's affecting her. If you'd like to talk more specifically, you're welcome to contact me by e-mail through my profile.
I hope you're able to find out something useful to help her -- and thanks for being such a good friend by trying to help her with this; I know she probably won't be thrilled you're asking, but she'll probably still be very glad to have a friend who is so understanding and willing to try to help her with this very difficult and frustrating condition. :) Make sure she knows that this condition isn't going to be a barrier to your friendship, and that you're willing to do whatever you can to be supportive, and that may, ultimately, be the most meaningful thing you can do for her. Good luck!
2006-12-13 06:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor. It can be physical problems such as diabetes, or psychological problems like stress, etc. Nothing to be ashamed of, but something to get help for before it does become a problem. Good luck.
2006-12-11 14:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy depends they help for people who wet the bed.
2006-12-11 14:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by teenangel12202002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't drink water 45 min before she goes to sleep.
If that doesn't work tell her to see a shrink.
2006-12-11 14:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Eastpack69 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that stinks....she could get buzzer
2006-12-11 14:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it cuz "she" is drinking?
2006-12-11 14:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋