PROBLEM!(no not a guy question)?

Question

First off...ITS NOT JASON! its his sister PATRICIA i borrowed his account for this problem..
okay here i go im 14 (jason's fraternal twin sis) and myy best friends name is nina(nee-nuh) okay we have been BEST friends for about 2years .she has always been the leader..me i have been the follower i became a cheerleader this year and shes constantly bringing me down like she tells me i dance bad and she dances better.she says her butt is bigger and that im flat. now im aleader and i dont act like her best friend anymore. shes also always talking about her as$ and shes so conceited. what do i do? she does act like a best friend sometimes but now i cant confide in her and im beggining to have another best friend that i tell all my secrets to besides her HELP

Answer 1

Alright, I'm a guy and I might not no a lot, but I'll help anyways. There this friend of ur's named Nina, right? How did u become friends with each other? By leading u 2 it? A real friend wouldn't treat their friend that badly. Yea she could B a leader and u the follower, but she should give u chance 2 lead 2. So what if she says u dance bad or u flat? Making it this far on the cheerleading team- of course u dance good. Better than Nina. Thats y she says that, 2 bring u down so she could b the better dancer and distract u and get kicked out of the team. And how can she put u down by saying her *** is bigger? She kno ur sensitive 2 that so she'll kepp doin that. It's her problem that her *** is big, she could've siliconed it or stufff her panty hose with tissues or something. U've gotta learn 2 stick up 4 urself. Now that ur the leader, u could treat her like **** just like she did with u. Now u can say things that would insult her. Then after that tell her u gotta talk 2 her and tell her wat u feel about her treating u. IF NOT then u gotta have nutin 2 do with her, just tell her 2 back up and get the hell off yo face. Doin this would make her feel bad and beg mercy. Unless she's hard core then leave her alone. It's hard 2 do @ first, but u'll get used 2 it afterwards. Find somebody else who u could B tight with on the cheer team, or some body that have things in common wit u. Hope this helps.

P.S: U used ur bro's account 2 ask 2 questions. he gonna get mad @ u if he finds out. So answer a lota q's and get points 4 them. U could also get ur own email account (u don't have 2 pay 4 it), and ask q's on ur account. Don't B goin and invadin ur bros privacy.

Mani

Answer 2

If she is doing this to be mean, she probably wasn't your friend to begin with. I'm sorry to tell you this, but people in a leader/follower relationship usually end up the leader is 'popular' and the follower is the door mat. She could be jealous, but I think she just liked the idea of having someone that followed her all the time. My advice is this, go to the other friend if the relationship isn't a leader/follower one. have fun and be yourself

Answer 3

Sounds like she is maybe a little jealous. There shouldn't be a leader and a follower in any realationship be it friendship or otherwise. Talk to her and tell her how you feel, and I am sure you can work it out.
But be yourself. And seriously. Do you want to be friends with some one that puts you down? Sounds like your friend needs a reality check and fast. Don't let anyone put you down.

Answer 4

Tell her how you are feeling. let her know you don't feel you are really great friends anymore, and you really want to stick with her. If she is a true friend, she'll try her best to work it out with you. But if not, it sounds like you have the begining of another really great friendship.....take it girl! If this other person is easier to hang with, nicer, and accepts you for who you are, that is the meaning of a true friend. Good luck, and don't be afraid to be your own leader.

And don't forget, you can always have a new friend, and still keep your old one. (One is silver and the other is gold)

Answer 5

get rid of Nina, get on with it, leave her alone