for 39 years the church told me not to give in to my desires. keep staying involved with women and eventualy i would become "normal". well after 39 years of lying to myself and many women, i figured i was a bigger sinner to lie for so many years to myself and the ladies i was involved with.engaged for marriage 2 times. almost a dad once. now my question, how could adult people be so shallow in this day and age to think that homosexuality is a choice?
2006-12-11 13:49:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
thank you to evryone who answered especialy for those who took it serious. i have overcome the trials and tribulations that were programmed in me for so many years. i feel sorry for those who haven"t. i hope that some day you will live up to the scriptures and accept all for who they are. i am very happy with who i have become and accepted myself . GAY. i accept myself for who i am now. and cannot say i worry how others view me, but they have to live with themselves as i do myself. only god is allowed to judge. unless you want to take the chance to explain why you judged ,you should look at yourself first and not worry about those that are different from you. thanks everyone
2006-12-11 14:21:02 · update #1
First of all, I'm sorry that the church has ruined your life for 39 years like it has so many. What did Christ say the most important law was? Love one another I do believe... My sister is a homosexual, and she will be marrying the woman she loves in a month in Canada. Theres no reason to believe that she would make a choice that has made her so miserable for so long. Love yourself, love others, be with whoever makes you happy.
good luck and good health ~_^
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2006-12-11 13:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am not gay, it is not my way of life. But like you I do not feel that people have a choice in the matter. I agree with you that homosexuality is not a choice; a person does not have a choice to be born a man or a woman either. You are not a bigger sinner or lesser sinner than anybody else. You do not lie any more, you do not steel, you pay taxes, you do not force anybody to think the way you do. And nobody, church and church leaders especially, should play God and tell who is the sinner and who is not.
2006-12-11 22:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by paloma 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that a church would counsel you like that with the things you was and still are going through.Maybe you was turning to the wrong church.Most preachers that I know would tell you being gay isn't the sin it's the acts that gay people commit.Being attracted to the same sex comes from having to many of the same sex genes.You are not suppose to act on those feelings.So times I really think we are born different just so we can be stronger and try to over come it which might mean never loving someone.I know that is hard and something I never have had to go through.But I also feel that if you turn your life over to God and I mean truly to God he can and will help you over come everything.
2006-12-11 23:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by wastedddayzandwastednites 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are not being shallow if that is what they actually believe. Some people still believe the Earth is flat, or that the Earth has only been here for 6,000 years, or that mankind walked with the dinosaurs, all of which aren't true. It takes a long time for people to believe something contradictory to what they have always been told is the truth, and some of them will never believe it anyway, even if the truth is staring them straight in the face. Glad you realized the truth for yourself. Medical evidence says these people are all wrong, but you can't convince somebody with the facts if they already made up their mind. Move on and have a happier life.
2006-12-11 21:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Paul H 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Homosexuality is not a choice I hope you have realized that by now. lol. Any one who says it is a choice, does not have the slightest idea what being gay means. So how can they say what is natural? It might not be natural for them, but for a minority of adults it is a natural thing. People use the bible to justify their hate and ignorance, but the bible can be interpreted alot of different ways. Who is to say which interpretation is the right one?
2006-12-11 22:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Churches don't always speak for God. Remember that.
God is supposed to be about love, peace, and goodwill towards others. God does not preach hate. Churches, or more specifically idiots with God complexes crave power and twist the scriptures for their own agendas. They are enormous hypocrites and have more skeletons in their closets than anyone else.
2006-12-11 22:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
homosexuality is not a choice, howevre living the homosexual lifestly is. I am sorry you have been given this cross to bear and I hope you can find happiness in the single life. I agree you should not lie to yourself or other women, but this does not mean you should have romantic relationships with men. Also what church? that is a vary blatant and what seems to be misguided view on what the Catholic Church teaches, so I was just wondering, any how God bless.
2006-12-11 21:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by University Girl 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well, you answered your question already: because their religion tells them to. Too many people use religion to do their thinking for them. If their church leader or book tells them something, then that's the final word. This way, they don't have to consider all the evidence. Ain't religion great? Granted, religion does have many good aspects. But many bad as well.
The other thing is that many heterosexual people consider homosexuality disgusting. I don't myself, but too many people do. It sucks, but I doubt it will ever change. It will become less and less "PC" to hate homosexuals, but it will always be there in some people. It's good to see that you're embracing yourself and your needs, though! Good luck to you...
2006-12-11 21:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by yodadoe 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm glad you got out and came out before you hurt those women, and gave yourself bigger hurt. Of course, I also think this is evidence that they are as much against all women as they are against gay men.
If you aren't there already, Yahoo! has some great ex-ex-gay groups online. You can e-mail me for the information if you like.
2006-12-11 21:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
"homosexuality is not a choice, howevre living the homosexual lifestly is." What kind of crap answer is this?
Homosexual lifestyle ... what does that mean? Living is a lifestyle, ***-hat! And living your life the way that is honest and true to yourself is the "life" you should live.
Good for you getting on with your life.
2006-12-11 23:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋