How Do I stop Loving someone, and still be there best friend?

Question

My friends tell me that I should let him go cause its best for the both of us! ButI really really dont know what to do....Please help!!
AKA Just be a best friend and try not to have
~Despreate Girl~

Answer 1

That is going to be impossible , You still love this person to deeply to be just a friend. What ever stopped you from being together was to deep of a reason to be friends now . Maybe later but not now.

Answer 2

Impossible. There's no way you can really be around him right now. I'm not saying it's not impossible to be his friend. Mmmm. I don't know about "best" friend. You'll hear too many of his intimate details about another girl. Just don't think it would work. You've already crossed beyond the friendship line. You still have feelings for him, and more than likely he stll has feelings for you. Any little situation will open the potential door for all the emotions the two of you have ever felt to overtake you both. How many times would this happen? Would you wake up in the morning wondering how did you let your self fall back in love with him again, and how did it happen that you came to spend the night with him again? Later on that day you'd say it'd never happen again. Maybe it wouldn't for another two months. Only to wake up back in his arms again. It'd be an endless cycle. Could you handle seeing him with someone else?

You need time apart so you both can heal. You can't move forward until healing goes on.

Answer 3

First of all is he pulling away from you or is this just your friends perception of a situation? I mean what is the reasoning behind your friends telling you to let this guy go?
In order to be friends with someone that you love you first have to take some time apart to regain perspective. You can not just suddenly become their best friend and fall out of love, that would only be a long term pain for you.
Step away if you feel your friends are correct on this one. Back off for a bit and take a look at the big picture of your life. Once you feel like you can handle just being friends with him then try and connect on a friendship level. Not recommended if you know for sure you still have feelings for him.

Answer 4

That is a really hard thing to do. Advice I would give is try not to push the relationship or things will get worse. Also sometimes if you take a break from each other and then restart everything but make sure you both know the guidelines to the relationship. I wish you good luck and patience.

Just remember that there will always be a part of you that will still love that person. Controlling your emotions will be hard but time will help heal.

Answer 5

That is very hard to do. You can't just turn love on and off like that. Maybe over time, and I mean a long time, you can be friends. But why are you doing this? Is it only because your friends are telling you to do that? Since you didn't give many details, I feel I should ask? If he is abusing you or not treating you with respect, then leaving him would be in your best interest. But you should be the one who decides and from what I can hear in your question is your confusion and mostly pain.
I hope the decision you make is your decision and saying that will make it the "right" decision. Follow your heart.

Answer 6

This can work but you need some space to get your head straight. Maybe the relationship is still too fresh in your head. Being best friends after being together is possible but you have to have exceptional confidence in yourself first. It's too easy to fall back into the same old feelings and that would put a strain on the new friendship. You don't have to stop loving him. You always will only now in more of a supportive way. If you find yourself getting jealous of his new interests then you need more time. If you find yourself happy that he is happy then you can be his best friend for life and who knows maybe later on down the line you both might figure out to try one more time. Anything in your life is possible if you want it bad enough, but for now step back, regroup, and come back more sure of yourself and then you can be his friend.

Answer 7

Ahh, I know this all too well... and the only thing I can say is that you can try to stop loving them and maybe if you go out with someone it will help but then again maybe it won't. All you can do is try and open your heart to someone and just be there for that person as a friend. Later on if it's meant to be then you two will end up together. No one knows what the future holds for them. All you can do is live your lives and leave it up to GOD.

Answer 8

No one can make a person to stop loving someone else. If the person has never been there and done that, then they do not know what you mean.
I have been there and done that.
Only time will tell when you do not care about that person anymore, but that does not mean that you will never think of him or her again. No one in this room can really give you assistance, but I recommend you see a professional counselor and listen to him or her on your feelings, but you express your honest feelings when you do this.
Happy Holidays and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 9

You cannot or will not for that matter remain friends. YOu want to end or better a certain part of your relationship. You cannot have a piece of the enchilada, you have to have the whole thing. Only a chump would stick around after you break it off and is willing to remain friends. I have seen it tried, and it is unfair to both of you and whoever you get with next. Don't do it.

Answer 10

Girl, find a new hobby or activity to get yourself involved in so that you spend less time thinking this kind of mess! Move on! There are so many other people out there who would love to have you in their lives. Go read to the elderly or preschool children. Learn a new language, but stop this negative thinking.