I was married to a wounderful man for 5 yrs. till I messed up.We got a divorce. 2 years ago we got back together,not married just living together. Now he wants a "time out"to see where his head is at he says.What does this mean and how can I do this when I know in my heart we belong together.Someone please help me to understand what he wants and why.
2006-12-11 13:40:13 · 22 answers · asked by ekhkygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would talk to him about that. He is the best person to get the correct answer. I'm assuming a time out is time away. Like taking a step backwards. You want to move forward and he could sense that and wants to take a step back. I would talk to him about it. Best to you.
2006-12-11 13:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by JAD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women both need a "time out," and as a sport, I know how women literally feel about marriage, not to mention I have been married to a Paris of Antarctica (yes, a princess) and so I know when to give my royal wife a time out. When men want a "time out," it is more llike a "time freeze." Although both men and women think in the exact same manner, I would not advise that you speak to your ex-husband. His time-out is also the reason for divorce, since you may have reasons that I will never touch. My wife is a darling person, a real sweetheart and the Lady of Heavy Metal, yet there are times into which she wishes to be left alone or away from me, not because I am Maitreya but because she knows her identity before I, Raven Stahlnecker, became Robert Pittman. I will not divorce my own wife because of a glitch in privacy but rather warp the "kids life" because of all marital rights. You have a right to a happy and decent marriage along with every single person on the planet.
2006-12-11 14:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mew Xacata (Raven) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out usually means either party or in this case your man needs time to evaluate the relationship. You stated that u messed up and maybe he's afraid that whatever it was that you did you might do again. Give him the space he's asking, respect his decision, and if its meant to be he will come back. Tell him that you love him and that you understand he needs time and that u are willing to respect that, and just wait and see what happens. since you two been together for a while now this timeout is probably a 2 week thing or less, maybe he's just testing you to see if you will wait or leave. so just be patient and things will fall into place.
2006-12-11 13:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but when a guy wants a time out...it usually means he confused because their is somebody else in the picture. Or maybe he' s not use to being tied down to commitment. It also doesnt help that you "messed up" and you have to face it things are not going to be the same. To me a time out is very rude and disrespectful because your actually hurting the other persons feelings for your own selfishness. But in this case you have caused the damage in the past which is still affecting you today.
2006-12-11 13:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and my guy and I took a time out for about a week and got back together. He probably just needs some space and time to think about the situation you are both in. You messed up maybe he believes in second chances. Just give him some time. Respect his decision and be adult about the situation. Things will work out the way that they are meant to be.
2006-12-11 13:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by slvrcss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by "messed up" you mean that you cheated, he's probably having a hard time deciding if he can forgive and forget. It sounds like he's getting some really strong feelings towards you again and needs to decide if he's ready to take the relationship to the next level again.
2006-12-11 13:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by teamo94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone that is what he is trying to tell you. Personally, I think that he has someone else in his life and is trying to figure out what he should do. This goes back to that lesson of if you walked away from it continue going. Don't look back! When you look back then you have to deal with emotional messes like this one. Where you are left hanging in the wind! Move on!
2006-12-11 13:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You messed up once, so maybe he figures you will probably do it again, and what's some space to reevaluate the situation he is in. He just might not be able to get over the mistake you made before.
2006-12-11 13:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's saying that the only reason that a MALE would want to be friends with you, is so he will have sexual relationship with you, unless he is gay. If your boyfriend has lots of female friends, what would you think? Wouldn't you start thinking that they are going to come on to him while you are not there?
2016-03-29 03:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by Penelope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he didn't really take time to think if he really wanted to go back to you,now that he has ,he's having second thoughts
he wants to rethink his decision,that does not mean he does not want to be with you,he just needs time to clear his head,since you say that you messed up,maybe you should let him have his space ,I would move out!!!
try living in seperate houses,and the two of you can try getting to know each other again
good luck!!!
2006-12-11 13:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋