My boyfriend wants to have sex... AGAIN. The last time we did but I got pregnant and in the middle of my pregnancy I lost the baby. I'm afraid to do it again and loose another one. He won't listen to "No" he still wants to. What else can I say to him. Actually he's not my boyfriend but my fiance'. I don't know what else to say to him! HELP!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 13:30:28 · 14 answers · asked by Docs Mommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are going to have to sit him down and try and make him understand that you are scare of lossing another baby and you are uncomfortable doing so. But you will have to try and over come this fear because having sex will not make you loss your baby it is just samething that happened and only god knows why. If i was you i would talk to my doctor or you can go see a consellor because you can't just put his needs on the back burner or you risk having fights and you may loss him.
2006-12-11 13:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by regie811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly that - tell him! Bottle up the courage to have a casual chat again about how you feel another baby would be the perfect addition to complete your family. It would be lovely for you to have one with your boyfriend in theory, as you haven't one together. It seems the natural next step in your relationship and if you are both ready and stable - it would be a great idea. Only you will be able to know how your partner will react to this conversation, but the sooner you talk, the sooner you will be clear on how he feels! Good luck!
2016-03-29 03:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by Penelope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, like others said, he needs to understand how do u feel.
He is supposed to be understanding. (N u r getting marrried later!)
Most importantly, he should understand n share the burden - paranoia - together, until time tells n n when u r ready again.
But of course, who knows, mebbe ur boy is crazed for sex while u could not provide 'em pleasure (though this can be a concern, but I don't think u should worry), he might look for someone else - which then screw up the marriage.
The way to deal - understanding n tolerance with one another.
2006-12-11 14:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can still have sex w/out getting pregnant, u can avoid a pregnancy by using birth control (condoms, pill, patch).Once u are ready to try again u'll know,u just need time to get over ur lost. Try to have fun and enjoy it.
2006-12-11 14:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to learn that NO means NO and if he is still wanting to have sex, even though you dont it isnt going to get any better when your married, if he really cared and had any respect for you he would push the sex, there are much better guys out there that know how to treat a woman.
2006-12-11 13:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by firstknight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's your fiancee you will eventually have to have sex again. You need to get some advice on how to deal with your miscarriage...then focus on the sex issue. Explain to him that he's just simply going to have to wait. That you will again, but you first need to cope with your loss. May I also add that if it's just simply because you "don't want to get pregnant again" there are methods of contraception out there.
2006-12-11 13:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth - how you really feel. If he loves you, he'll try to understand - and give you time to heal emotionally as well as physically. If he doesn't - then you are better off without him.
Yes, it is hard, but you deserve respect and compassion. You are not just for his sexual satisfaction. Sex in only one part of a relationship.
2006-12-11 13:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by medimom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are going to start seeing a therapist. I don't mean to be insensitive, but at some point you need to deal with this. If you don't want to get pregnant, you could always use birthcontrol.
2006-12-11 13:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use protection, get some birth control, for then you won't have to be fearful of getting pregnant.
2006-12-11 13:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, not to sound like a *****, but you need to have sex with him. Are you never going to have sex with him again? How about when you are married?
2006-12-11 13:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋