I am engaged to a guy who seems to not care.
This behavior has been going on for a long time and I was about to break it off when he popped the question.
I am confused. Why do his actions say I don't care but then he asks me to marry him? In a nutshell, he is always eager to help his friends but not me and is always at this one guys house to the point where I am seriously wondering if he is gay. He also turns me down sexually nine times out of ten and doesn't initiate much and if we do actually have sex I don't get any foreplay 'because he thiks I don't need it' and has every excuse to not have sex. Also, he doesn't do anything for anniversaries, doesn't buy me anything for my b-day, and he only got me something for X-mas because he knew he better because of all the other times he missed.
He said I am lucky I got a 'card' for my b-day because he doesn't even get his own brother anything for his b-day (interesting he didn't mention he doesn't get anything for his sister either.).
2006-12-11 13:24:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He seems very laid back. And if you dont' like this attitude, then I suggest you break things off with him and find someone who is your type. Do you really want to live with someone like this, who doesn't get you stuff for your birthday or is passionate about living? i didn't think so....
2006-12-11 13:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound like a good start to marriage. It is obvious that you are not happy with this and if you are already making excuses for him.... Please know that getting married will not make it any better.
I would like to know why you are still with this person? From what you've written this person does not show much respect to you and any kindness, if at all has a "I had to do it" feeling.
Please look at who you are and your value. This is not a person that you will be happy with. If you want a ring, buy yourself one and let Mr. Sentiment go out the door.
I wish you well and grandted I do not know all of what is going on, but from what you've written - this guy is not worth a lot.
Claire
2006-12-11 21:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by 343 Remember 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have popped the question bc he fears of losing you. He probably knows how much you love him and if he at least marries you than you'll deal with his behavior. I'd honestly think about your own happiness. If your not happy than I wouldnt stay in this relationship. You probably already figured that out yourself. also, if you havent already talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel, no sugar coating, if he doesnt like what you have to say or disrespects your feelings than you get your answer. Good luck
2006-12-11 21:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by ALF08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess, if he's not seriously gay, he doesn't show he cares because he doesn't. In which case, my advice would be definitely don't marry the guy. You'll end up separated or divorced or if you don't believe in those things, stuck with someone who will probably never be there for you for the rest of your life.
2006-12-11 21:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to seriously rethink this because if you have a gut feeling about this you might be right,
2006-12-11 21:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by day shaun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a jerk ....move on find someone who puts you first and enjoys to do things 4 you.
2006-12-11 22:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by bo_dela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋