Why do I give up on myself?

Question

I am losing hope in ever getting a girl. I have an anxiety about asking a girl out and have never done it in my life. I can't even start a conversation with a girl, as I have another fear of embarassing myself. I am planning to not ever be with a girl, and I don't really feel like getting rid of my fear. Living alone would be better than embarassing myself. It will take too much effort and too much of my time. I will probably live in Hawaii or something and enjoy my life, alone. I don't know why everyone says it would be bad to do that. Besides, I don't want kids, and I don't want to have to listen to everything my wife, if I had one, wants. I don't know why I have any confidence, as I am tall, well built, and I have been told by a lot of people I'm attractive. I don't know if I ever will get over my anxiety. I might as well give up, seing as I will never ask a girl out. What is my problem, or how can I fix it, if I ever wanted t

And my parents would say something stupid like "Oh, that's so cute" or crap like that. I would just be embarassed if I was in love, and it would make my life easier if I was alone. I have heard about many people who have done fine alone.

Answer 1

Don't worry about it you're still young start worrying when you are older. If there is a girl that you like you won't be afraid to make a fool of yourself, and girls make fools of themselves as well. Everyone gets embarassed you just need to find someone you care about and ask her out and if she says yes (of course) that is great. Don't worry just take it one day at a time if there ever is some girl you like you won't be afraid and don't go searching for her wait until she comes to you or else you will be wasting your time. You will get over it, get married and you will probably listen to your wife and you will have kids I'm pretty sure about it.
Just relax for now!

Answer 2

Number 1: You're thinking way too much, you're
going through what most kids go through and over do. You don't have a fear, your insecure because your unsure about yourself. Girls are just like guys, they're your friends. Get a job at burger king or a place where a lot of girls work.
Otherwise stop questioning your manhood. You are a young man when you are ready and comfortable with yourself others will be comfortable with you. Just be friendly and a nice guy, girls usually take care of the rest. But stop blowing it out of proportion.

Answer 3

Okay, well good luck with that. If you're turning for answers for help, that's sort of not going to work. You could seek counselling or therapy for your problems though or just accept them and do something else besides trying to date.

Although I think you have some funny assumptions. My husband to be and I don't want any children and he's getting a vesectomy. Childfree women do exist. I wouldn't be in this relationship if he wanted kids, I'd say, "sorry bye bye" or tell him to do the biblical thing and get a concubine or a second wife who can be a housing unit and raiser of his child maybe she can be a maid too while she's at it! Ahaha, as for listening to everything your wife says? Why would you have to do that? Marriage is a partnership and equality. I don't agree with everything my lover says and he certainly doesn't agree with everything I say. We work together to find the middle ground that works for us.

Answer 4

It is certainly your choice if you don't want to be with anyone but you would probably find that you were happy if you did. I have to tell you that my husband cheated on me after 11 years of marriage and I am devestated but would I say honestly that I was better off without him, no. I may be hurting right now but I know that my life would have been worse without him. So yeah are you going to get hurt sometimes? But I think you will find that the good times will far outway the bad times. As far as your confidence and self-esteem go, that is something you have to work on for you. You can't get self-esteem from anyone else it has to come from you. So start to look at yourself like the unique, special person that you are and know that there is someone out there for you. Until you find her then have fun and learn to love yourself. God bless you and good luck with your future.

Answer 5

definately find a therapist. You have some issues. But if you would rather be alone, then go for it. If you are the type who doesn't want to have kids and listen to what your wife wants, you would better off, alone.

Answer 6

Richard, stop beating your self up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOu have plenty of time to meet girls, don't rush into it!!!!!!!!!
You need to focus on school, getting good grades, go to college, then you can look for the women of your dreams.
Stop wasting so much time on girls right now,you have so much ahead of you, that you need to be prepare for your future
No I am not your mom, but I am a mom, and you are letting this issue get to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Find a hobby, go camping, hunting, fishing, play sports, do something rather than worry about girls!!!!!!!

Answer 7

and this is so cute...you came to us more experienced people instead of the dating side of things. you seem pretty young yet an you will out grow all this shyness. soon those girls will be crawling all over you! so don't be all upset over this. it will happen an usually when you least expect it to.

Answer 8

don't worry, I think all you need is a hairy as s dude to kiss on ya neck and bend you over a sink, and then you will live happily ever after with him HOMO!!!!!!

Answer 9

you need to stop worrying about everyone else and decide what you want for yourself.

Answer 10

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