I'm 17 and a senior in highschool. I'm excited for college but scared at the same time. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a little more than a year and I'm afraid that college will split us up. I'm afraid that in college she will cling to someone else and eventually forget about me. I love her so much and I even want to marry her but I can't help but feeling like someone is gonna come between us. I mean I know she loves me but sometimes I feel like someone better than me is gonna come along and I'm out of the picture. I don't know why I feel this way because she never gave me a reason to think this way but I do. I need some advice.
2006-12-11 13:22:28 · 21 answers · asked by big baby 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The chances are very good that you guys will split up; that you will go your own separate ways. If that happens, life moves on. You have a whole lot more living to do and many people will come and go out of your life. Concentrate on your studies. If its meant to be (with anyone at anytime), then it will still be there later down the road. Don't force anything to happen that it isn't time for or you will be miserable.
2006-12-11 13:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by volkgal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ditto with what the guy above me said.
you are at an age where there is still so much more of life to experience, that you will change as a person. it is inevitable in the next 2, 5, and 10 years. that being said, it is usually a major changes like this that can change a relationship, because you simply won't be the same person you are right now. Cherish what you have with this gal for what it is, but also realize that there is a slight possibility of change. Don't be afraid of it. Take it as it comes. Always leave things on a good note if it does go that way.
If you are really set on marrying her, your best bet is what the guy above me said. Both live at home, and attend a local college.
2006-12-11 13:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to feel this way. Alot of high school romances don't last when they go off to different schools. Especially if they are really far away. Alot of times when you are in school you develop new friends and clicks that get in the way. No included the amount of time you are going to be spending on you academics. Maybe if you are both mature and keep communication going you can make it work. I have even heard of people taking a break from relationships while they are in school but not a very high success rating on that either. Good Luck girl with whatever you do. College is about finding yourself. Take some time and realize what you want to do.
2006-12-11 14:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jha Jha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its perfectly normal to feel that way. im in the same situation...im a senior in high school too. my boyfriend n i have been talkin a lot about the changes that are gunna occur. Were not gunna c as much and things are gunna b distant. he has this idea that im gunna go to college and find sum other man and leave him alone, but im willing to make it work. the point is that if trully love your girlfriend den the seperation will test how much and how true the love is....if you guys can go apart your seperate ways but still feel strongly for each other then its mean't to be. So the distant can actually be a good thing. Just keep in touch and never let her forget how much you care about her
2006-12-11 13:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to college and get an education period. You will have a great time and you will find someone different. I have seen about 10% of all high school relationships last through college because something happens to split it up. Don't let this discourage you though young lad as you will find someone yourself at college that will make you happy.
2006-12-11 13:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by strmch8sr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to the same college you'll have a better chance. If you'll both be living at home while going to college, even better. But, if someone's living on campus or even different colleges, it's going to be rough and anything can happen. I think you should be honest with her about how you feel. Sit down with her and tell you everything. Good luck.
2006-12-11 13:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by graduatecj08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, my voice is VERY - VERY - deep. And all through high school, I was picked on about it and I thought my high school girlfriend would find someone new. I was very insecure. But I found my place in a GLBT barbershop quartet, singing bass, and I make enough money to almost support us both. My point is, everyone doesn't need to go to college. If I had, or if I had let her go to college, we might not still be together - and so I probably would not still be alive today...
2006-12-11 13:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by rrbowker2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be a good test for both of you...You will both need to buckle down and hit the books so you two have a lot of things to do beside worrying about losing each other. Make plans to see her mid term if possible. If you are both doing what you should be doing then you'll both look forward to seeing each other and sharing stories. Stop thinking about the worse case scenarios and think good and happy thoughts. Don't burden her unnecessarily about your concerns about her fidelity. It will push her away. Good luck at college.
2006-12-11 13:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like every couple hetero, gay, lesbian that had to make real life choices. Nobody can give you advice except to talk about it, look at all sides, take your best shot and don't regret your decision.
We all have to go through the same thing.
2006-12-11 13:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not cling! If it so meant to last, it will. If it fades during college, then it was not to be. Sometimes it can fade and then re-kindle when you are both older and wiser. Good luck!
2006-12-11 13:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋